Getting overwhelmed by too many choices

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21 Jun 2015, 9:38 pm

I don't have problems in this area.
I know what I like and don't like and usually eat/wear/use the same things all the time, so there are few decisions to make.
I am focused on singular special interest too.


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21 Jun 2015, 10:17 pm

I was just in this again. Someone asked online what was the scariest thing that happened to you and I have had many scariest things happen and I couldn't pick so I posted them all instead when I saw someone else posted three. I am sure people will think I am a making those stories up because they may not think there is no way all those things could happen in your lifetime.


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21 Jun 2015, 11:11 pm

iliketrees wrote:
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What about if I hate even minor things?

Like what to eat. I mean I just eat pasta for lunch each day. I measure the damn pasta out. Why the f**k do I do that? Eventually if I keep doing this food loses taste to me as you'd probably expect if you eat the same thing over and over. And then I eat a different thing over and over. And that's only if someone suggests something else - gives me something else to try. I don't know how I'm gonna do on my own if I can't even decide what to eat so I just eat the same things. I never even noticed this before.


I do that, I go through phases of eating certain things then I won't eat it again for awhile.

I can't figure out why though :scratch:


I am exactly the same way, with food. I prefer the same, limited menu, day in and day out. I think part of it, could be due to our natural tendency/preference for keeping the things that we actually have control over, as simple and routine as possible, being that, so many other aspects of our lives are stressful or anxiety provoking. It's one less thing to have to think about. Although, my routine foods happen to be the foods I prefer and like most.



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21 Jun 2015, 11:31 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:
I have that trouble when presented with too many choices. My brain tries to analyse each item in the hope of finding out the best one, which would be great if I had loads and loads of free time, but I don't. Usually there's quite a bit of pressure to come to a decision fairly quickly.




This fits well within my description of how autistics often engage the world in conscious thought, with a detachment to subconscious thought.

An extremely complex task, like riding a bicycle, must be done in the subconscious because your conscious thought could not possibly do all the calculations and make decisions quickly enough.
It must be intuitive.

Normal people can often make quick decisions when faced with many choices because they use their intuition (no detachment or dissociation).

We may also have the intuition, but we ignore it (dissociation), and choose to use a more concrete logic to determine our decisions. We don't trust our subconscious operation, the emotionally driven intuition.

The conscious thought is slow. The unconscious thought is quick.



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21 Jun 2015, 11:51 pm

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Does this happen to anyone else? Some days I am useless because I am completely overwhelmed by all of the choices everywhere, ranging from choices about what to wear, eat or buy or do to choices such as which course to do at school, which universities to apply to, what hobbies to take up, etc.

Choosing what to wear is pretty simple for me. I have my work attire and my non-work attire. This is the same for food. I have the same breakfast and lunch every day. From my perspective, this simplifies decision making.

I do find making new decision can at times be stressful (say, I need to replace a washing machine or whathave you). Fortunately, I am pretty good at conducting research. Yet, I do it fairly obsessively. I can spend hours (upon hours) researching every aspect before making a decision. Which is why once I find a product that is acceptable, I will continue to use it (hopefully forever).

I don’t really have any hobbies. I wish I did. But, I never figured out how to choose one to pursue.



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22 Jun 2015, 5:02 am

I have.

Especially that I want to learn so many things, I don't know which to choose, where to start; if that would be worth it or a waste of time and money, if I end up not liking it or not, if I'm able to finish it at all or not in the future, and so on and so on... I end up thinking way ahead of myself.


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22 Jun 2015, 5:14 am

I have this problem. I have a hard time choosing what to eat, so I eat nothing or something dumb and unhealthy. I can't choose what to watch on TV, so I watch the same shows over and over (I don't have cable, I watch Netflix).
I got around the food issue by putting together a day's worth of food that is nutritionally complete and healthy and contains the right amount of fat, protein and carbohydrates, and then I just eat that over and over. At least I'm getting the proper nutrition that way.


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22 Jun 2015, 5:18 am

Very good idea, jimmy. Though I think I'm getting everything other than iron - I don't eat meat, and that's the main source. I drink plenty of smoothies or juice (I prefer smoothies) and my diet is pretty varied. I may eat the same lunch but my parents decide what I have for dinner, even if I'm the one that puts it in the oven. Occasionally they give me new things to try which are similar to things I like if I start going off certain things. :D



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22 Jun 2015, 7:01 am

Peas, lentils, spinach & soybeans are all good vegetarian/vegan sources of iron. Or take a multivitamin that contains at least 100% daily recommended amounts of iron. Other dark, leafy greens (like collard greens) and legumes (like lima beans) contain iron. As long as you eat a variety of vegetables, you should be getting all the proper vitamins you need, with the possible exception of B vitamins. But, again, a good multivitamin can supply those. I take a multi everyday.

My daily vegetable regimen consists of broccoli, kale, spinach, bell peppers (red/green/yellow), tomatoes, & black beans. I do probably need to add more colorful veggies like beets and carrots, but that's more complicated and I want simple.


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22 Jun 2015, 7:05 am

I take multivitamins sometimes... should make a more regular thing of it. Think one pack has gone past its best before but it's not made me ill yet so yeah. :D

I did used to absolutely love spinach, which sadly meant I ate it constantly and went off of it and now I can't stand it anymore. :roll: I do love peas and lentils so I'll try and increase the amount of those. Thanks again for your advice. :D



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22 Jun 2015, 2:11 pm

olympiadis wrote:
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I have that trouble when presented with too many choices. My brain tries to analyse each item in the hope of finding out the best one, which would be great if I had loads and loads of free time, but I don't. Usually there's quite a bit of pressure to come to a decision fairly quickly.


This fits well within my description of how autistics often engage the world in conscious thought, with a detachment to subconscious thought.

An extremely complex task, like riding a bicycle, must be done in the subconscious because your conscious thought could not possibly do all the calculations and make decisions quickly enough.
It must be intuitive.

Normal people can often make quick decisions when faced with many choices because they use their intuition (no detachment or dissociation).

We may also have the intuition, but we ignore it (dissociation), and choose to use a more concrete logic to determine our decisions. We don't trust our subconscious operation, the emotionally driven intuition.

The conscious thought is slow. The unconscious thought is quick.

Yes, it feels like that could well be going on when I have too many choices. The only part of it that feels unconscious is what I've learned over the years about what to do when faced with the problem.



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25 Jun 2015, 7:43 am

I happily live off of one or two foods for weeks/months on end. I eat food until I have overloaded on it then I stop and move on to something else and on it goes. My son is the same. He would rather go hungry than eat a food that is not one of things he likes. He won't try new things even if they are similar to what he already likes. It's that or nothing.

He struggles with too much choice which is why I rarely take him shopping for things, he prefers to pick out of an Argos catalogue than be faced with row after row of toys in a busy shop where he can't see exactly what is there. I also prefer online shopping for this reason. I can take my time. I compare similar things across a variety of sites, it can take me days or weeks to finally decide what I want to buy. It's frustrating as often if there is a sale on, I miss the advantage because I couldn't make my mind up in time.