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Soomander
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13 Jul 2015, 1:20 pm

Good Luck! I can't stand acting NT. My anxiety rises sky high when I try emulating normal NT behavior. I start sweating like cranberry sauce on a moist turkey on Thanksgiving. My studder comes up and I can't go a word without sounding like my teeth are about to shatter.



Chezecaek
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15 Jul 2015, 1:30 pm

StarTrekker wrote:
NT males have never given me a second look, despite the fact that I have been told I'm attractive. I eventually found a boyfriend when one of the autistic boys from my social skills group asked me out. You might have more success dating aspie women than NTs. I don't have to act or hide my traits around my boyfriend because he acts the same way. Are there any aspie groups in your area? If not, you could advertise on an online dating site that you're looking for other aspies.


Actually the only reason I asked you out was because I needed your nuclear launch codes. You're pretty unattractive to be honest.



AspieUtah
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15 Jul 2015, 1:46 pm

doofy wrote:
duck12 wrote:
I am probably going to end up alone, but yet I am still wanting a gf. I just don't see how its going to happen because now, despite the fact I'm actually acting like a normal guy, girls still don't think I exist, so what am I doing wrong?

Acting.

I believe that most human behaviors are, in fact, affectations. From conversation to interests, special knowledge, religion and philosophies, clothing, colors, eyeglasses, shoes, employment, advanced education, studies, friend selections, cooperation, food choices, appreciation of certain art and entertainment, preferred residence and citizenship etc., humans pick and choose those characteristics that they want to exhibit for themselves as much as those which they want to be exhibited by others.

So, why should acting, masking or adapting be any less acceptable in social contexts? Most men mask that they were completely bored attending their spouses' family reunions. Their spouses know this but the play continues.


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