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19 Jul 2015, 2:12 pm

Be it being Autistic, black, gay, or having a disease you can't force a another person into acceptance.


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19 Jul 2015, 5:56 pm

If your account is accurate, the fact that he's called you a "bad example" seems to show how, despite his huge efforts, he's still autistic enough to be way too blunt. And it seems paranoid of him to think that being exposed to an Aspie is going to make him more autistic.

I don't think there's much you can do. He's chosen the curebie road, and time will tell whether he made the right choice. But from what you say, I wouldn't think that such a level of denial would be likely to work out very well.

On the other hand, I don't know how 2-way this friendship was. If you were helping him as well as him helping you, fine. If not, he might have shelved you to pursue something he feels will be more promising. But if so it seems a shame he didn't admit that, and instead blamed it all on autism. He doesn't sound very mature to me.

But my whole post here is a long shot, friendships can be very complex things.



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19 Jul 2015, 6:09 pm

ultimateaspie wrote:
iliketrees wrote:
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you are using the crab mentality and want him to be in your same misery. I understand this is the only kind of friendships you can have. I used to be friends with other subhumans as a teen, one in particular was my favourite because he hated when our other friends hanged around neurotypicals, and we said exactly that they were trying to "emulate" and they weren't being themselves. If I could go back in time, I'd kick myself in the mouth for saying such hateful garbage to people I now care about (in my teens, I was much much much more aspie than now and I don't think I could feel love or respect for anyone because it was a "gay" feeling in my head).

You are butthurt. You should support your friend that obviously doesn't have autism. Let him free and don't dare to sabotage him just because of your egoistical reasons. You will never be able to emulate NTs of course, you need to accept a life of permanent loneliness, that's what autism is about. Get diagnosed if you didn't, I think it helps enormously to "stay at your place".

What the f**k? What on earth did she do to you to get this kind of response?

By the way, they sorted it out: viewtopic.php?f=3&t=289864


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I wonder why people have problems relating to us? Hopefully one day you will grow up and learn that autism is not a get to be an a**hole card, only an explanation


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