Petersen_1953 wrote:
When I said vindictive, I meant it to mean bitter. If you look up the word on Google, one of the last synonyms is bitter.
It can be very hard to find a professional to assess, is often expensive, and rather than being a transparent process, often seems quite capricious.
I think Sethno really was worried for you that your mom might have been guessing on her own without a professional guiding her and that that could lead to frustration for you later if people said "suspected" about you.
There are no guarantees in life and even with the most thorough diagnostic process, people can reevaluate later and give different labels. I think it matters more that your mom and you feel you get the support you need.