What neurotypical traits (if any ) do you have?

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For me, surprises can be either a blessed event or a blasted nightmare!
I would usually find something like suddenly receiving a bought gift (or especially money) to be a pleasant surprise.
I would almost always find being ambushed into spontaneously having to change my plans to be a dreadful experience.
Example: Let's say I had my heart set on going out for pizza on my birthday, but my spouse and our boy decide we should go to Benihana's instead because they'll give me a free birthday dinner, so they end up dining with a Pooh Bear!

I simulate many neurotypical traits for the benefit of my own personal circumstances and to allow those around me to accept and understand the person I want them to percieve me as, the neurotypical traits I have are probably that while I feel no empathy for almost all strangers once I speak to someone if I like them I can have too much empathy and even feel protective of them also I have a strong need for some companionship and to talk to people even though it can be exhausting, I was fortunate enough to meet an understanding woman who loves me and my differences and am married with a son on the spectrum, so relationships are obviously my biggest neurotypical trait, even though my marriage is somewhat unconventional and cold

I score high on Neurotypical Talent and Neurodiverse Talent.

I make eye contact now. Didn't used to when I was a kid.

I dunno

Human?

I use sarcasm and usually recognize when other people are doing so. I rarely seriously interpret someone's words overly literally, but I make a lot of puns because my natural tendency to interpret things literally still occurs at the same time as my correct interpretation. I also think I do a good job at listening to others and controlling my desire to non-literally talk someone's ear off about some passion of mine that nobody else cares about. With much effort, I make decent eye contact but have still been told I need to stare at people's eyes more.

I'm very affectionate & needy & clingy within a relationship & like discussing feelings.

-I don't have rigid routine, and I don't eat exactly the same food every day, I actually love a change in meals

-I have proven to myself and to others that I am very empathetic, inside and out. People often say that I'm very understanding and they feel they can share their feelings with me and trust me. I don't know if that's an actual NT trait or not

-I don't have trouble with eye contact and I don't speak in an odd tone

-I naturally recognise subtle social cues like how people are feeling through body language, facial expressions, etc

-I am not literal, I can generally understand jokes and sarcasm

-I am good with telling white lies, and can instinctively separate what I'm thinking to what I'm saying, just to avoid hurting people's feelings, or to avoid an awkward situation

-I am really good with expressing my feelings and showing emotion, and also discussing things with someone

-I use social imagination, like imagining how the other person feels when they are telling me about something that happened to them, and picturing them in the moment even though I wasn't there

-I used to have obsessions but only mostly through my teen years (not as a young child), and in my early 20's

-With an interest I find it difficult to focus on the smaller details, and I find it difficult to memorize too

-I can communicate my thoughts of feelings through body language, like people can notice if I am agitated or happy or whatever, just by my facial expressions and body language and tone of voice, etc

-I have self-awareness and I desire to fit in, and am sensitive to ridicule

-I can understand NTs

-I am very verbal when angry or agitated. Being in a darkened room alone does not calm me down. Talking to somebody, or crying to somebody, always helps

-I like being touched, whatever mood I'm in. I especially liked being cuddled when deeply sad

-I cry at funerals and at other people's losses (it's like I cry for them, or can feel their sadness)

-My social status is very important to me. So if I am working somewhere where I don't feel I fit in, it has an affect on my work performance and causes major depression and dysfunction. If people talk to me and like to eat their lunch with me and I feel I can talk to them comfortably, I feel much happier and more motivated to work

-I like Facebook, and I'm interested in other people and gossip. I LOVE gossip

-I don't have sensory issues with touch, taste, smells or light

I don't have many problems with oversensitivities, and I'm sure there are a couple more neurotypical traits I have, but I'm kinda unsure, overall...

There are such things as Youth Hostels. When I had a job in the 2000s I'd travel to Toronto, Chicago, Montreal and Vancouver. Instead of paying $150/night at a Holiday Inn, I'd pay $25-30 for a Youth Hostel.

In a Hostel you don't stay alone in your room. Typically you've got international travellers from faraway places like Australia, parts of Europe and the Middle East. While you can stay in a "private room" for like $80/night...the main type of room is bunk-style....4 or 6 or 8 guys or girls (no co-ed) per room.

http://www.hihostels.ca/

I don't speak in a monotone voice.
I show emotions and make facial expressions (something I learned early from cartoons and kiddie shows).
I've been told I can have too much empathy, to the point that I get really stressed out.
I am not shy.
I am not insensitive to pain. In fact I seem to be oversensitive to it, that that might also be an aspie thing.

I find facial expressions quite disconcerting. In fact, I often daydream of a world in which people wore dispassionate faces and were driven by pure logic...I get a real high out of that.

On the flip side, I am really expressive with my 5 year old daughter, often going down to her level in play.

Strange juxtapositions there. Anyone experience the same ideas/sensations?

I guess to clarify- Here's an example: if guests are coming over to my house- i need to plan. I don't like it just last minute. But it is a surprise to me either way if I didn't expect them and they let me know they are coming.

How much advance notice do you need?

I love traveling new places
I crave social interaction even though it stresses me out (worst catch 22 ever)
Allot of the times I like attention
I come of as more alpha, not timid not afraid to get in someones face if they challenge me
It seems like I'm a lot less sensitive then a lot of aspies and don't get offended by crude humor, I actually love it
I'm extremely affectionate with my significant other and love being touched
I can strike up conversations with others and seem to be able to read their unspoken intentions ( not easily fooled)
I'm also very concerned with my physical appearance, being in shape and staying clean are very important to me (I've read that aspies can lack this)

I get bored of doing the same things everyday. Truth be told though, I don't like UNEXPECTED changes in routine.