Trying to Impress Other People Is An NT Thing!True or False?

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I don't subscribe to this marketing notion that, unless you buy thousands of dollars worth of cologne, deodorant, hair spray, etc. you won't be accepted. I don't want to be accepted. I don't care about being accepted. I'd rather not be accepted - and you know what?! You don't need to spend all those wasted thousands of dollars on that crap throughout the year simply to be accepted in society if you really don't care about being accepted in their society.

Besides, I know someone, (very well) who's gone like 2-3 months without showering and didn't smell and nobody at work said boo to him. (unless all involved had sinus problems)

I don't think it's exclusively an NT thing. I have tried to impress others in the past, by trying to be funny.

It'd be nice if I could go without a shower for a while.

But I stink if I don't shower. I don't use cologne, by the way.

I don't try to impress people. I just plug away at what I do. I do hope to get noticed (quietly) and I desire appreciation for a job well done. Perhaps it happens more slowly than if I purposefully tried to draw a lot of attention to myself. But I don't, and I won't. I don't like it.

Sometimes, I have to present my work. Even in these situations, I am very matter-of-fact. I quietly present what I've done and let people take a look at it.

I don't "dress to impress." I don't even wear make-up or do my hair beyond brushing it and tying it into a basic ponytail. Neither do I try to hide what I do well. I just don't advertise it to everyone. When people get to know me a little, or in situations where I need to present my work, that is when they can get "impressed" by what I do. And even then, it's their own business whether or not they do. I am not trying to convince them to be impressed.

No not really, its more of a do you care about other people kind of thing, if you do then you're probably going to try to impress them in some way, if you don't then probably not.

I'm Aspie and I care what people think. It's all part of the 'trying to fit in' / 'pretending to be normal' thing that occupied the first 30 years of my life. I am working on caring less but I don't think I will ever not care.

If I'm not harming anybody, who is anybody to judge my quirkiness?

I would be curious about a quirky person--but I would really, really try not to judge that person.

I care what people think too, but mostly in the way that I feel bad if they don't like me. I don't care enough to try to make myself a lot more palatable. I do try to be polite and kind and friendly, but that falls into "decent human behavior", not just trying to fit in. Other than that, I don't really do anything to try and be more like the people I am around.