On Lying...

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I can relate. I hate lying, and I have no use for it in my life, whether it's me lying to someone else or someone else lying to me. I don't like lying at all, for any reason (except in some extreme circumstances that are truly life-or-death)
I've gotten into trouble for my honesty. Either people thought I was lying to cover up something I did wrong, or I got someone in trouble because I didn't lie for them. I've also gotten into trouble because I assume people are not lying to me and I take what they say as true.
I have no use for lying of any kind, even if it's to be nice like telling me you like my shirt when you really hate it. Just tell me you hate it and that won't bother me.
I have no use for people who lie. It's a pretty stringent rule of mine that if you lie to me, you are not my friend.

I can usually work out the social juxtaposition of a lie soon enough after the fact, which is usually not the gravest type of lie to someone in my shoes. No, these days I'm primarily offended by lies from the people writing my paychecks or running governments.

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I hate lying and dishonesty in general. I can lie and I can manipulate but it takes a lot of emotional energy to do so. I find in many cases in society, it seems to be the unwritten rule that you are expected to lie. Most of the time, I honestly just cannot be bothered to. If someone is ugly, I won't tell them that but I won't lie to them either. I will compliment them on aspects that I do like, but will simply not mention those that I don't like in order to not hurt their feelings, but they better not expect me to lie to them because I won't.

I tend to lie only in acts of self-preservation or in order to manipulate someone I see as a threat to disarm them, other than that I just tell the blunt, straight forward truth when asked. If they don't want to know the truth, then don't bother asking me in the first place.

I have OCD-related fear of lying and dishonesty. It was so bad in college that if I was taking a test and knew I had marked the correct answer for myself and happened to accidentally see someone else's answer on their paper while looking around thinking and their answer was also correct I would change my answer to the wrong answer because I felt like I had cheated. Even though I hadn't and already knew my answer was correct and had no doubts about my answer nor intentions of cheating. If I managed to resist changing my answer to the wrong answer, I had horrible anxiety and guilt over it. OCD sucks.

I also have confessional OCD where I think I am lying if I don't tell someone everything I was thinking about them. I resist it as best I can but it leaves a lot of anxiety and guilt when the OCD is attacking. It isn't all the time. It happens sporadically and most often with people I am obsessed with.

I hate OCD. It's like your conscience is too strong and it is like being raped by your own conscience.