Do you care that you're not "normal"?

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One million dollars, hehehe.

Nope I'm fine the way that I am.

If anyone else doesn't like that I act a bit different they can f*ck themselfs.

I've learn to adapt to a lot of situations through practice, so I can pretend to be 'normal' when I need to (sometimes anyway) but I'd rather just be myself.
Normal is usually boring anyway

Wanna be me, nothing else, I dont see whats so great about normals

I am happy with being myself, but I do wish I could shoot lightning bolts from my finger tips.

I am not interested in being normal.

Sometimes. I think that that is probably just me being angry at me - if I can't do something or I do something I shouldn't and then in hindsight regret it it's times like that I wish I were 'normal' but then when I have time to calm down and think about it I realise that although other people have things I feel I can't have I'd still much prefer my situation.

I might not have friends but that also means I'm not pressured into going out when I don't want to, to places I don't want to go, with people I don't want to be with. It also means that the few friends I do have I feel are worth the masses of friends it seems everyone else has.

It also appears that 'normal' people are extremely tolerant of awful traits in each other, just because in order to be accepted they have to accept everyone else's BS. And so when I think about it in those terms I realise I'd rather not have fake friendships with fake people.

When other people study hard and get good grades, and I can't concentrate and still pass, I wish I were 'normal' so that I could achieve my full potential, but then again I'd rather scrape through on my own intelligence and my own ideas instead of studying up on everyone else's and having to concentrate and dedicate a lot of time to something that doesn't interest me to get a decent result.

So although I can't say I never have my moments, I think it's those moments that also help me to appreciate the person I am when I've had time to reflect. When I've thought it over I realise that it's only aspects of myself I'd like to change/work on, and I wouldn't want to be a completely different person for anything.

At one point in time I thought that I was the problem. Years later I found out that I was different from most and very glad to be so.

There is no such thing as normal. Everyone is their own unique way, have their own problems, all thier minds work different, see things different, I am who I am. Having a label doesn't define who we are. They're just there so we know what's wrong with us, and know what to look up to read more about it so we understand it more. IMO, that's why names of conditions exist. It's to help other people understand someone so they know what to do to help the person and so the person knows what to do. When I got diagnosed with AS, my mother was able to tell other people I have that so they know why I am the way I am. If I started having anxiety or I took something literal they say, etc. they know I'm not being a smart ass and I'm not being a brat.

I disagree that there is no such thing as normal in the sense that society has a yardstick for those who can not or will not easily conform. The measurements for that yardstick changes somewhat but the basis for it remains the same. Outsiders are generally seen with caution and those who can not see the beauty of the herd with contempt sometimes. So there is a "normal" in a sense.

I also think that many people are upset because they have been conditioned that it is wrong not being like everyone else. Especially for those who did not know that there was such a thing as AS - but even those kids who do still may have the desires of others put on them. I remember as a kid being nervous about birthday parties and such because it was generally another glaring spotlight about how different you were. I also think about prom and stuff like that - I went to both my junior and senior proms - but did I really want to go or was it pressure to confrom that makes a person have to do this stuff. I think if there had been no stigma for not going I probably wouldn't have. I kind of laugh because I went out with guys I didn't really like either just because you were supposed to. So doing alot of this was to make other people happy or to avoid social embarrassments.

I should add that I don't really care about that now - the only things that bother me are those that interfere with what I may want to do like sensory issues or OCD. I don't feel the need to conform or feel so bad for being so socially ackward but I did when I was younger.

Since I found out about AS, I care less and less that I'm not 'normal', but there are always situations when I really wish I could pull it off better.

(Looking around to see who the only other person to vote 'yes' was)

YES. I hate my brain, my life, the world. I'd give anything for a brain transplant. I like being smart, yeah, and I think NT's suck and I wouldn't want to be one, but they've made my life so miserable I have no hope of anything at all any more. So I'd choose neither actually, don't want to be me, don't want to be an NT.

And that is why I get suicidal.

No one is normal. If normal has to mean you don't have any problems, then no one in my family is normal. Tom cruise isn't normal, Cher isn't, Dustin Hoffman isn't lol. There are other celebrities who aren’t normal either. You may think someone is normal but you will be surprised when they tell you have are on meds or they have dyslexia or they have color blindness, diabetes, arthritis, etc. That’s why I say there is no such thing as normal. My mom even says “What is normal?”
As long as you can live a normal life and function out in the real world, you are normal. Doesn’t matter if you are autistic, or AS or PDD. You can be schizophrenic and still be normal because it doesn’t stop you from living a normal life and you don’t need to be in a group home or anything because it’s mild just as long as you keep taking your pills. I see myself as normal. I was 15 when I stopped looking at the word “normal” rigidly. I noticed lot of people were on medicine for some reason and I realized lot of kids in my school had dyslexia, 1/3 of my school was in special ed but yet still went to regular ed classes just like I did. If you look at the word normal in a rigid way, then no one in my family is normal, nor were my teachers and lot of kids in my school. Even my boss back in Montana wouldn’t be normal because she has diabetes and one of the co workers has arthritis so she had to take pills for it, one of my dad’s friends has a heart problem and thyroid problem so he takes pills for it also. That’s why I am not so hooked up on the word normal because everyone had their own problems and lot of people have a disability.


Back when I used to say I want to be normal, my mother would point out to me about my dad and my uncle by saying “Is Dad normal? Is Uncle John normal? They both have to take pills. Dad has to take his insulin and John has to take his pills or he will get blood clogged in his system, do you still think they’re normal?”
Now I use the same method to other people who say they aren’t normal so I say my whole family isn’t normal either and tell them why.