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10 Apr 2007, 2:52 pm

I'd happily stay at home on the internet all night than go out. Other people just don't seem to understand this though. If there's one thing that annoys me more than having to go out when I don't want to, it's people feeling sorry for me not going out when I don't want to :roll:



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10 Apr 2007, 3:32 pm

Since my self-diagnosis, I helped my brother to also self-diagnose, and also 2 of my friends.

Suddenly, I began seeing that the traits that we shared and made us friends were so Aspie-like that I had to talk to them and see if they indeed had the same social problems I had, the way of organizing thoughts and all that.

My Gosh! It was amazing. No wonder we could be friends!! !

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10 Apr 2007, 3:54 pm

I seem to gravitate towards other aspies...but wouldn't that be natural if we are less than social ourselves, to gravitate towards others who are the same and who are different? My ex was an aspie, but I knew nothing about it at the time. The guy I liked until recently is an aspie... I just know when someone has it, it is like some kind of built in radar.


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11 Apr 2007, 9:23 am

JulieArticuno wrote:
Kaleido wrote:
I think there is a lot in the saying 'Birds of a feather, flock together'.

I think it takes an Aspie to know one.

I have come to this conclusion because before I knew I had AS, I had made friends throughout my life and the ones I remain closest too are Aspies mostly!

It was only after I came out and told my friends that I suddenly found my close friend from school has just discovered he very likely has Aspergers as well as ADD/ADHD, two people that I am very close to have AS and the other has ADD with a good selection of AS traits and my best friend right now has borderline if not full AS status.

Anyone else found that we automatically link up with other Aspies, even if unknowlingly?




Ho-crap, that is so me. I befriended four people before diagnosis. When seeking sdiagnosis, one person said they were suspected of having AS and one said she;d beenb diagnosed, and after diagniosis, one girl self-diagnosed because she sad AS would explain a lot of utherwise inexplicable things, and another got diagnosed 6 months after me! With all these people, I met them in excess of 6 years ago. I think it's because the things NT's find unpleasent/socially unacceptable/uncomfortable are not noticed by other aspies because they themselves don't see them as such, so they are more likely to stay friends with you even if you do some fairly peculiar things.

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That so true! I hardly notice things going on around me somedays! I didn't even know my boss was dating a coworker for a whole year before I knew! When I found out everyone looked at me like I was crazy.



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11 Apr 2007, 9:31 am

I don't know what to think. I've got "aspies" telling me I one, and other non-whatever folks telling me not to listen to my senses, whatever I've read, and least of all, non-professionals...\


Why am I stressing out over this?


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11 Apr 2007, 1:18 pm

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I don't know what to think. I've got "aspies" telling me I one, and other non-whatever folks telling me not to listen to my senses, whatever I've read, and least of all, non-professionals...\

Why am I stressing out over this?


I don't know but I wouldn't have accepted it if I had been younger, I would have been upset if anyone had so much suggested that I might be an Aspie, so perhaps you will feel clearer with a little time.