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CockneyRebel
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01 Jun 2016, 12:13 pm

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I hate the idea that people need to be in a romantic relationship or be married or "have a family" in order to have a successful life! If that is what a person on the spectrum _wants_ it can work out wonderfully. If they are doing it because they are told they are supposed to . . . :cry: It is possible to be perfectly happy single! It's even better if people you care about aren't trying to tell you that you shouldn't be happy by yourself. It can come across as them saying that you are not good enough by yourself and need somebody else to make you better.


Me too. It drives me up the wall to be honest. I'm 41, I've never been on a date, been married or had sex. I'm very happy. I bet I would be miserable if I was pushed into having a family. I don't have the right balance of hormones to live the typical family life with a family of my own.


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01 Jun 2016, 12:53 pm

Pospaland wrote:
Hi.. My brother is 27 and autistic. We want him to have a family life. My friend suggested a matchmaking service, Premier Introductions in Toronto that will help him to find a partner who understands him. But will this be effective? Any better suggestions?

What if he doesn't? A lot of autistic people lead solitary lives and even prefer it. I wouldn't suggest hoisting this upon him unless he's made it clear that he wants it.


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01 Jun 2016, 4:44 pm

NT solutions are often a very poor fit for ASD people, and when imposed on them, can set them up to fail.



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01 Jun 2016, 11:47 pm

I'm just going to say yes, and also some autistic people DO want to live that lifestyle, but it's an individual thing. Figure out what he wants and more importantly WHY he wants it.


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02 Jun 2016, 12:46 am

B19 wrote:
NT solutions are often a very poor fit for ASD people, and when imposed on them, can set them up to fail.


This has been well documented time and time again.


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02 Jun 2016, 9:46 pm

Family life is very hard for me. It is equally hard on my family members dealing with my quirks.