On the spectrum and NOT been bullied?

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This is my experience as well. There were a few instances in which I can recall kids picking on me or laughing at me behind my back when they thought I couldn't hear, especially in middle and high school, but bullying was never a huge factor in my education. I was mostly ignored and left alone, probably because I was so quiet and did very little to draw attention to myself.

IMO any ASD student that never experienced bullying was either homeschooled or danm lucky. In the mid-1990's I briefly worked as a transporter for a vocational training programme where all participants were kids or young adults on the spectrum and noticed a number of peer-bullying behaviours, some of which were eerily similar to what NT kids did to me in grades K-12. Infact I ended up reprimanded for turning in what facilitators considered excessive incident reports.

Bullying is not a trait of autism, autistic kids are often bullied though because they don't know what's going on and don't fight back.

I have been bullied, apparently. I didn't know it was considered bullying so I have probably been bullied many other times.

If an aspie has never been bullied, that means he has never interacted with anyone else in his life.

or might have interacted with veeeery few people?

i can relate. when people bring up past instances of begin bullied when talking to me, most of the time i think, "that was bullying?"

I'm curious now. Could I have missed out on bullying because I didn't recognize it? I have always had my best friend, we've known each other since kindergarten, and she was the cool girl in school so perhaps I was cool by proxy and therefore wasn't bothered much.

Which incidents have others described as bullying, and you didn't realise?

ignorance is bliss here, truly

You can't ignore people who are physically abusing you.

I knew they were being pejorative, but I thought that it was just normal teasing. No one ever told me it was bullying, but it didn't stop me from hating them.

In that case it isn't at all a mystery that you are being bullied or abused and you couldn't have "missed out on it".

Bullying is more than just physical abuse, it can be very subtle too. Especially with girls. So I have read. I don't think I've experienced it, however I might have been ignorant.

I wasn't badly bullied at school like a lot of Aspies here have been.

Through primary school I wasn't even picked on at all.

When I got to secondary school, I did get picked on a bit, which I suppose you'd say is a form of bullying, but it could have been worse, so I was quite lucky really.
In year 7 some girls in year 8 started picking on me on the way home from school. They would yell at me across the road and humiliate me. But then it all turned into friendliness, and they didn't pick on me any more. I didn't see them coming home from school any more, and in school they started being friendly. So I was friendly back.

My cousin's friends got quite bitchy towards me, and my cousin let them. They would get nasty with me over something silly, and make me feel bad all the time. But they soon stopped as I got a bit older. Teenage girls can be very bloody awkward to please.

In year 9 I had these random older boys call me Japanese each time they passed, and nothing I said could stop them. I don't know why they called me Japanese because I look nothing like a Japanese girl or even remotely Asian at all. But that fizzled out and they left school and I never seen them since.

I got some stupid year 9 boys sexually harassing me coming home from school when I was in year 11. They claimed they liked me in that way, but then went a bit too far and started pulling their pants down when passing me in a quiet area, and touching my bum. Then when I retaliated by pushing one of them into a bush, they then turned nasty, and tried tripping me up in the street. But that soon got sorted when I told the principal. I think that scared them, and they left me alone after that.

Then, lo and behold, I experienced my worst bullying way after I left school, when I was 19. I had to get my phone number changed and everything. This group of girls bullied me all because I refused to date this boy we knew. The girls threatened to beat me up if they saw me in the town. Luckily I didn't live in the same town they lived in, I just went there sometimes to hang out or go shopping. So I was safe in my own hometown, because they didn't know where I lived. But that all blew over, and I heard those girls moved on and have babies now, and the boy I'm still friends with but he now has a girlfriend.

I haven't got bullied since.

Maybe it's because Japanese people are weird, and so are aspies.

god year 9ers are weird.

i don't get it. are you SURE they said you're japanese and not "you shat your knees" or something like that? or maybe you "dressed japanese" or were very high achieving like that stereotype?

uh.

What, now you want bullies to make sense? Won't ever happen.

....no!