Can you recognize others on the spectrum?

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Real life, yes. Internet, not so much.

In real life I can generally recognise spectrumites, and sometimes ask them if I sense that this won't upset them. Online it's not always so easy. I can often tell from their profile (if they have one), or the way they approach certain topics. Detailed posts, sophisticated vocabulary and those who are highly articulate can be an indicator.

I can guess if a person is a bit off or obviously stimming in public but is my guess accurate? i will never know.

I can often pick out HFA in children, due to watching my son. They play beside, not with, the other kids. They have a certain look in the eyes or face. I would not have picked up on the cues had it not been for seeing it in my child.

I often see traits in adults too--i am not always sure if the person would be totally on the spectrum but i would say i am probably a fairly accurate assessor of autistic or aspie tendencies in people. Sometimes other disorders such as ADD or ADHD can look similar to autism--i cannot always tell the difference between these and HFA. But neurodiverse in some way usually stands out to me.

Online--depends what traits they possess and how it affects their online interactions. Aspies are often wordy, analytical, and very emotional about things that my NT friends/acquaintances would not be, or in a higher degree than an NT.

Sometimes i can't put my finger on how i know someone is or might be autistic, i can just tell. In these situations, i think i am not always socially aware enough to say what behaviors cue me in--it is a gut feeling more than anything.

The software place I worked in the 1980's the programmers presented as stereotyped NT talking about girls, sports, nightclubs etc all the time. But then at the time I was no different. Unless they followed me after work they would have had no way of knowing I was different. The software place I worked from 1998-2005 the employees were quirky, different etc. There was a young woman at a non software place I worked in at the early 90's that was shy, quirky and kept a calander on the wall by her desk. Every time she had sex which was once every few months she made a mark on her calander. I do not know what women do in private, but that is extreamly atypical in an office setting. In those years I was very unware of autism and was in no way was looking for it in other people.

Even after diagnosis when I went to support groups there were more then a few people where the seemed NT to me at first but eventually the Autistic traits became very noticeable to me.

If I saw them in real life then I think I would be able to recognise them since I analyse a lot

Not online. But in real life I see what I believe are spectrum traits in other people -- however, without asking the person, I have no way of knowing if I'm correct in my guess, or completely wrong. But yes, I do notice spectrum stuff in a person and suspect they're on it.

I have a friend I think has ASD and his friends and even his own kids tell him he's "SO Aspergers." There's someone I run into out walking his dog and I would lay down serious money he's on the spectrum. Another acquaintance strikes me as very spectrumy, except for that fact that she once outright said how "energized" she felt after a long chat we had! While I was going home exhausted...so that was weird and kind of didn't fit the profile. She's a very social person ans seeks out social interaction. But everything else about her seems aspie.

not to bring a old topic back to life but yes i can i have seen them at a public school and at a movie theader and a outlet mall i can tell by the stiming

A few times I have been able to recognize others on the spectrum. But other times, I've been surprised upon finding out someone has autism. Online, I'm totally clueless.

Sometimes I feel like I can irl because of things like their gate, mannerisms or they just seem a little socially awkward. Some of the same people would also complain things like loud noises. There have been some people though, that were on the spectrum and I had no idea until they told me.

I doubt that I could. I notice if someone is obviously unusual in some specific way, but that's about it.

I can tell/guess when it is very obvious.