Sleeping with People

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I take comfort that someone I trust is next to me. Although it takes a bit of getting used to for me. Once the habits are adapted to (Like, if you're going to get out of bed and back into bed, try to be quiet and not jostling) I find it hard to get back to not being in bed together.

For me, it's the change that is hard for me. Once I get used to something, it's hard to make a quick adaptation.

It also helps that we have a king sized bed. Lots of room to have my own space.

Yeah, movement is a big deal. When I shift and toss and turn I always do it very gently and somewhat slowly because too much aggressive movement can make me feel a little queasy. But my husband always shift and turns in the bed very strongly and fast and that can really bother me. And sometimes he has these dreams where he is riding a bike or running and jumping and he ends up kicking me. Then I wake him and ask what he is dreaming about and it's usually some kind of action movie kind of dream.

No matter what, when it comes "right down to it," I'd rather sleep alone than with somebody else.

This is something that you might find gets better with time if you remain in a relationship and sleep together every night. In the relationships I've had, I was always sleepless and restless at first, but then got used it and actually ended up not being able to sleep when my person wasn't there! I did a whole 180 turnaround, from not being able to sleep with someone there, to needing them there in order to fall asleep.

So, you never know, this might be the case for you too. It's like anything that you're not used to -- it's strange and problematic at first, then if you keep doing that thing it becomes something you got used to and even learned to like.

That's why it's hard for me when it changes.

But, for the individual, it is something to be worked out between them and their SO.

I would need a large enough bed. I have a lot of trouble sleeping as it is, so it would have to my bed not theirs that we would be sleeping in and they better not snore.

When we were on vacation we slept together in a King sized bed. What a difference from a Queen! I even forget she was *in* the bed one night! Hopefully her parents will get us one as a wedding present, if not it will be one of our first purchases after the house is set up.

If we get a hotel room without a king, we prefer two separate beds. Our sleep patterns are this:
I stay in one place all night long. I just roll over in place. But the wife? Well, that's why it takes a king for us.

I'm worried about this. I sleep in the rare "starfish" position, so I take up a lot of the bed, and I constantly move my legs while lying down. When I was younger and had sleepovers, I had trouble getting to sleep because another person in my bed made me have to give them space and move less.

I'd like to lay in my man's chest with his arms and legs heavily wrapped around me. I want to fall asleep there, but I don't think he would let me sleep haha..That's the one of problems between me and my SO.

Don't worry guys, the "he" is still nowhere to be found in reality....I know nobody wanted to know but I'm too kind not to let you know guys..wala vala chikita.

Well thank f**k, don't wanna compete with your heterosexuality and a guy!

Just forget my sexuality and what I said.

I'm yours baby..

Well that doesn't turn me on at all, not one little bit, Ничего. I'm definitely not lying

So far I hate sleeping with other people. I still love sleeping with my cat. She's super sweet and keeps me warm.

I was so worried about this before I got married. For the first 6 weeks neither of us really slept and eventually we decided to use separate duvets. That helped a lot. We both could sleep then (I can't sleep without the duvet between my legs, and I like it tucked all round me so tend to steal it all. Or else not sleep for fear that I will steal it all while I am sleeping). After a while we got used to the sleeping in the same bed and we don't whack each other so much now, and it doesn't matter when we do, which it did to start with. So after 3 or 4 months we returned to the (Super King) duvet and I have a blanket underneath that I can snuggle in. Everyone's happy (Our bed is King Size though - would be very tricky if not!)

You just have to find what works for you.