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Do you seem obviously weird to most people, even strangers?
Yes 61%  61%  [ 20 ]
No 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Only sometimes 18%  18%  [ 6 ]
I have no idea 21%  21%  [ 7 ]
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Spiderpig
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10 Feb 2016, 2:32 pm

I seem weird because I am.


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10 Feb 2016, 2:56 pm

Oh yes. I've never fit in anywhere. Some people find my weirdness to be entertaining, but nobody disputes that I'm a nutcase.



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10 Feb 2016, 3:05 pm

Definitely weird. Quiet, strange-looking, have to repeat myself because people don't understand me. Strangers tend to get the impression I'm severely mentally ill, and intellectually challenged.

EDIT - the interesting thing is that if I really try hard to smile and behave normally, I can pass for about 20 seconds (until the conversation moves beyond the 'hi-how-are-you-I'm-fine-thank-you' stage). And when I was younger, I made more of an effort to do that. Nowadays, I simply don't care - and I've found that 'not caring' spares me a lot of energy, and allows me to be more emotionally stable, rather than constantly stressed over awkward interactions.



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10 Feb 2016, 3:12 pm

I tend to think that if people think I am weird, that it is their problem and not mines.

I do however understand that sometimes it may cause problems in some situations.

I was raised to treat people as individuals, quirks and all.

Now I prefer to surround myself with people who can accept me, whatever way they take me.

We are individual if we are NT or ND, love your differences.



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10 Feb 2016, 3:16 pm

I do realise this won't work for everyone, but I just wanted to say what works for me.

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11 Feb 2016, 4:38 am

I really don't mind being unusual. But if it's obviously and immediately apparent, it makes life hard. I need to be able to fake being normal at certain times.

Lately, though, I feel like I don't care to try. I went out today to run errands, and just behaved naturally. I could tell some people were avoiding me or giving me looks. I didn't really want to socialize or pretend to be normal. I was anxious, and overwhelmed, and I just wanted to do what I needed to do and leave.

I don't know if it's better to try very hard to appear normal, stress myself out and still not fully succeed, or to not bother trying at all and be even more obvious while scaring away everyone who I come into contact with.