Ever Wish you were Nonverbal?

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Over the past 8 weeks, I kept on asking myself why couldn't I be nonverbal. If I was nonverbal, I wouldn't be attacked by the woman who gave birth to me on account of my special interests and I would be given a lot more leeway. I was even starting to think that a non-verbal boy on the spectrum that I knew of, growing up had it easier than I, even though he was never toilet trained. I was thinking about all the things his mum probably lets him have. If I was nonverbal, I wouldn't have to play the rebel and "Do as I please" because I'd get everything that I wanted.

As others mentioned I do not really wish it, but I understand the general feeling and I often shared it.

I love words. I love reading, writing, and taking the time to find the specific arrangement of words to convey my thoughts. But the exigences of oral conversation are often exhausting, and sometimes feel completely nonsensical. When I am tired or upset enough I often find myself unable to take part to any conversation and desperate to find a way out of them, especially if there is anything emotional in it.

No. Some days I'm bursting to tell people in my life about something -offline and not over the phone- but since I only get to talk to them once or twice a week I feel like I'll go crazy or I'll end up forgetting what I wanted to say if I do. I don't like to use the phone just to chat, and most people are too busy to listen unless it's something really important anyway. One exception is when I get to talk long-distance to my brother.

I don't think it would make much of a difference anyway. People ignore me or cut me off all the time when I try to speak. I have to scream or do something drastic to be noticed, then I'm usually yelled at for that.

No, because that sucks. What is actually beneficial is the perception of being nonverbal, not actually being nonverbal.

I've wished it before, but only half-way. The biggest time I wish it is when ordering at a restaurant. I hate trying to talk, and I'd love to have an excuse to not talk. I do wish I were deaf.

I frequently wish I could not speak. As you said, it would take off a lot of pressure in social situations. I often don't speak if I can help it, but if my parents catch me being temporarily mute they yell at me. I sometimes wish I could speak through a program like Google Translate, where I would type words, and a machine would actually say them.

Actually, correction: I would want to be able to talk, but have everybody accept that I don't talk.

Except for saying a word or two here and there, I have always been and prefer to be nonverbal. I don't really do much live chat stuff, so my slow typing is not an issue. I really didn't see the need to do a whole lot of communicating with others.

I have been at family gatherings and observed verbal people who don't say much. They're right there in the middle of all the people talking and look happy and involved, not shy, they just don't say much.

I think we tend to focus on those with the "gift of gab" and think that's what we're supposed to be like. But these days I'd like to be like that Joe cool guy who smiles, nods, laughs and let's everyone else do the gabbing.

I'm pretty much the same way most of the time.

I just don't want to make the effort to talk. I'd rather just listen.

Truthfully, though, I wouldn't want to be nonverbal. There are times when I can only express something through oral speech.

Does anyone have much more nonverbal situations than others? Maybe it is quite normal really.

I hardly speak at work. I prefer to be left alone to get on with my job and to be lost in my thoughts. My wife though says I am sometimes hard to speak to as I have so much to say and she can't get a word in.