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For the most part on a forum I don't care who has autism and who doesn't. Most of the people on other forums I have been on are "NT" (presumably). I just like interacting with other people online since I can not in real life.

Some people here have a very misconceived subjective idea regarding what is supposed to be exclusively autistic and what is supposed to be exclusively NT.

On forums autism is not really something that carries over in text. Unless one is talking about specific autism issues they experience.

I'm not sure why anyone would care whether someone they interact with is autistic or not. What difference does it make? It's not like I automatically get along with everyone who is autistic, and am unable to get along with any NTs.

I find that I have much less difficulties in communicating with those who have autism, because they tend to be more direct, as I am. There is less ambiguity in the conversations, and I don't have to worry as much about what someone may be implying with their statements. Even so, I do have trouble with miscommunication on WP sometimes.

But...I certainly don't like all of the autistic people I have met on WP, or even have much in common with most, besides having autism. I get along best with those that share my interests and viewpoints, whether they are autistic or NT.

It seems like some autistic people assume that if a person they meet isn't exactly as they are, with the same symptoms and degree of severity, then they must not be autistic. If I thought that way, I could very easily pronounce many people on WP as "not autistic". I have moderate to severe sensory issues. Many people here don't. I could just arbitrarily decide that those without sensory issues or without ones as bad as mine are actually just NTs in disguise.

Kraftie - I am curious. Can someone actually "act autistic", based upon their posts (i.e. use of words, grammar, writing style, etc.)?

I don't think that's a good way to judge autism. Nonverbal autistic people may be able to type very eloquently and someone with Asperger's Syndrome could be terrible at spelling and grammar. I don't think there is one sure way to "act autistic" because many other people with abilities/disabilities not autism related could type in a similar way as someone with autism.

I wasn't talking about how people write at all.

I was making the point that autistic people act human, too.

Apparently I "acted autistic" on Reddit in my first posts because of the way I responded and I was seen as a troll. Then someone said how sad it all was and how it's so obvious I am on the autism spectrum.

That's interesting.

Normal people can't fully understand a wall of text.

Oh well...

Got it.

I mistakenly thought the OP was suggesting that he/she could determine whether or not people on WP were autistic, based upon the way they "acted" on this forum (which basically means, their postings). I then became curious if others could tell if someone was "acting" autistic, based upon their postings.

The OP strikes me as someone who defines himself by what he is, rather than by who he is. And he clings tenaciously to it, and guards it like it was Fort Knox.

His problem is trying to define everyone that way. Don't meet his standards? You're a faker.

The OP strikes me as being completely gone from this website. The first post in this thread was the OP's most recent post, and the OP's "PM" button is missing.

Maybe it's time to lock this thread.

I don't mind NTs on the forums (and I think they generally identify themselves as NT). Most have been respectful, looking for information or sharing their perspectives as partners, parents, friends, or children of autistic people, or mental health professionals or students preparing to work with us. I'm happy to talk to them--most of the people I know are NT, and it's kinda cool to be able to ask what differences we have.

What would be a giveaway that a poster might be autistic would not be your grammer,or writing style, it would be how you react to others: like taking everything literally, not getting sarcasm, and things like that.

Very true. I think another sign is them making posts and people keep getting annoyed with them. Another sign is if they don't get lot of things and things have to be clearly spelled out to them in concrete terms and if they have no idea how people will react to their posts and not understanding the reactions they are getting from people and also how naive they are and how socially oblivious they are. Of course this could also be part of a learning disability or of another social disorder or low intelligence or they could just be a troll.

I like pretending that I'm not autistic.

I wish it were possible to do so successfully.

As I'm not officially diagnosed, I really don't know anything for sure. But I've got "impact". Lots of impact, over lots of years. Homelessness. Drug use. Job loss. Divorce. Etc. Etc.

My condition is "aphantasia" with verifiable NVLD, a condition that manifests just like Asperger's Autism. I tell people that I'm autistic but don't feel that I'm using a term to which I'm not entitled. It's easier than explaining NVLD.

But alas, until I am diagnosed, despite "impact" and verifiable symptoms, I'm "one of those self diagnosed people that may be faking it and really shouldn't be posting here until they are diagnosed". Or something like that.