People obsessed with your flaws

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As for the thing about our dean, the drama resulted when I casually told her that she was being backstabbed on Facebook by some people. I didn't mean to hurt anyone, I just said what I noticed. People ended up calling me a tattletale regardless of that.

Yup, okay. Sounds like they're jealous of you. I still think some of this must have to do with how you look or with someone having romantic feelings for you, or else the word "slut" wouldn't have come out. Which isn't something you can do anything about. But probably most of this is simply academic jealousy. You're doing better than them and are seeming to be on the side of faculty, so they are resulting to petty attacks to make themselves feel less small.

It doesn't sound to me like you've done anything wrong here, just that you have little in common with these people. I'd just try to be cordial, polite, and not expect them to be your friends. I'm sure your friends are more on the same intellectual and class level as you.

My friends always do this too...I always repeat my flaw like being too sensitive. BUT hey, what can we do about it? We can't really change it because it is who we are. If they are being mean because of the flaw that you have then they don't deserve to be called a "friend". Hope this helps..

Oh no, people could still reject you from group projects even if you were capable of doing more than your share of work. I can't stand group projects in school, but they are very much like group projects in white collar jobs, so maybe it's good to be familiar with them as a young person.

There could be one or more people in the study group who is a leader type and wants to be seen as smart. When an autistic person is an assigned part of the group, the autistic person often will do their portion of the project perfectly, but forget to inform the others of what they're doing every step of the way. Most groups think they need all this communication. I have LED groups in a WORK environment, mixed cultures, NT and aspie, and all the extra communication is NOT necessary to get the job done. But if a member isn't "friends" with the other group project members and doesn't attempt to make it "fun" or "get it done" (if it that means do it wrong), that member is quickly pushed to the side so that the rest of the people can do things the way they want. They may be fully aware of the aspies abilities, and that may further irk them.

Believe me, I've seen this exact situation and slight variations on this situation TONS of times in both school and work environments.

I think it might help you to use your blog to document exactly what these people do that causes you problems or is helpful. Try to include anything you did beforehand and afterward and what their response was. You could use it as a way to track the behavior of situations like this. When you see people acting like this again, you can go back to your notes and see if you need to try something different with what you do. Or least see if you can start to anticipate what they're gonna do next.

My mum seems to enjoy picking at my flaws when I'm not doing well. I got so sick and tired of it, I've decided not to spend the night with my parents and go home after dinner nearly a month ago because of it.

My narcissist ex was obsessed with my flaws so he had to make a big deal out of them to his son in front of me, kids were obsessed with my flaws when I was a kid and so were teachers and they seemed to not notice the things other kids would do but yet I stood out more when I would do stuff. My mom even had me video taped in class and she saw a bunch of stuff other kids did and I only did something very little and the school made a big deal out of it. I was pissed about it. Even my psychologist watched it too and I showed her all the flaws other kids were doing and then in the middle of the video I am goofing off with a friend in class and sticking my tongue out at her and hissing and she has her hand covering her mouth and she was sticking her tongue out at me too and it wasn't shown in the camera because she had her hand covering her mouth to the camera. I mean seriously. How was what I did any different? I remember that friend was being mean to me so I reacted but in the video it looked like we were playing but it looked like I was just teasing her and she was ignoring it even though she was looking at me with her hand on her face covering the side of her mouth. I remember she started it and I got the blame because I reacted to it and didn't ignore it. My mom thinks this all happened because I was on the IEP so they expected me to be perfect and penalize me for every little thing and then they wanted me in a behavior program. I believe I was pathologized and it didn't even look like I was disrupting class because the teacher was still teaching and the other kids didn't seem to be reacting to what I was doing. I wasn't being loud.

I was in the hospital the other day bc I'm sick.

I had some acne on my forehead...

The lady that I walked passed looked up at my forehead and just stared. This isn't even an "autistic flaw''.

However, it shows how low people will go...

To answer OP - yes - and I´m tired of hearing people - even friends - commenting, wondering and treating me like a funny specimen, that has to be examined and tried. Mostly it is about my way of communicating, my approach to language, my missing the point in jokes.
I think, THEY are the ones being inflexible, thinking in labels and narrow stereotypes - needing to accept convention in order to function.....
Excuse my rant, but I am somewhat pissed off at the moment.

My parents were very critical of my Aspie quirks/issues & how my other mental & physical disabilities affect me even thou they thought I was autistic sense I was a toddler & became aware of my other disabilities when I was young. They cant understand & relate to having problems.

It is all over now, but I still have no closure.

People seem to do this to me too.

I had a teacher who was hesitant to let me take a fake baby that act like a real baby home because she was worried that I wouldn't be able to handle it. If it was a real baby, I'd understand, but it was FAKE.

In elementary school, the student service teachers was obsessed with my negative aspie parts. Never pointed out the positive, only ever focused on the negative.

This isn't autism-related, but lately, my mom has become obsessed with my inability to moderate calories.

Once, I was obsessed with a flaw an NT had. I was just joking about it with others, really, but let me just say that it didn't go over well when he found out I was joking about and kept talking about it in front of him, he was NOT impressed at all.