Not living away at university due to Aspergers - help?
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LimboMan wrote:
I'm not going to live on my own, the student loan should cover most of it, and I'm going to see a house this week with 3 other students who study art which is a shared interest for me, which could make getting on easier!
This house's particular agreement dosen't start until the end of July, so in that time I should work on the housekeeping skills if I agree to it.
The last time I moved away, I guess I experienced quite a lot of self consciousness and sensory overload. For example if the people were playing loud music and I was trying to cook (I didn't any experience with anyway) it caused me to get very anxious because I felt I couldn't concentrate. Again, with the cooking, I felt that I would cause something terrible to happen like a fire or not know what to do if something goes wrong, or I'll get food poisoning. And what are the controls, as each cooker is different.
Then I got anxious about using the washing machine like what's the correct way to wash as each machine is different names for certain settings and how do you know what setting to put on. I just got anxious of them seeing me getting worked up about things probably second nature to them and must of assumed me to know these basic things, and I don't want that to happen again. Because last time I got so freaked out about it all. If I was left on my own I worried I would do something seriously wrong.
Is it worth telling potential housemates that I'm a bit of a anxious person? And I guess this is all OCD related and just practice?
This house's particular agreement dosen't start until the end of July, so in that time I should work on the housekeeping skills if I agree to it.
The last time I moved away, I guess I experienced quite a lot of self consciousness and sensory overload. For example if the people were playing loud music and I was trying to cook (I didn't any experience with anyway) it caused me to get very anxious because I felt I couldn't concentrate. Again, with the cooking, I felt that I would cause something terrible to happen like a fire or not know what to do if something goes wrong, or I'll get food poisoning. And what are the controls, as each cooker is different.
Then I got anxious about using the washing machine like what's the correct way to wash as each machine is different names for certain settings and how do you know what setting to put on. I just got anxious of them seeing me getting worked up about things probably second nature to them and must of assumed me to know these basic things, and I don't want that to happen again. Because last time I got so freaked out about it all. If I was left on my own I worried I would do something seriously wrong.
Is it worth telling potential housemates that I'm a bit of a anxious person? And I guess this is all OCD related and just practice?
It is good that you are going to try living at university again, I think it is the right choice, and the more "forward" choice, meaning that you are taking a chance being on your own and going forwards instead of staying put in a comfort zone.
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