Never went through teenage "rebellious" phase

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I never was rebellious towards my parents growing up or now but I would consider myself rebellious towards society as an adult. I don't do social norms and I have no problem committing victimless crimes. Its not meant as an F society thing, its just I am at the point I am going to live life truly free and I don't care what people think. You can lock me in a cell but you will never take my freedom. I never really thought that way as a teenager, I was far too innocent to know how corrupt the world is. The worse thing I did as a teen was play M rated games and watch R rated movies when I wasn't suppose to and all my parents did was raid my room every now and then and trash all offensive media. They were kinda thick when I think about it, they broke the discs but left everything on my hard drive lol. Seriously though thats the only rule in my family I ever broke.

I was a moody and difficult teenager, and I wrestled with a lot of anger issues due to a number of factors.

But I never rebelled in the way that most teens seem to rebel, with drugs or drinking or sneaking out. On the couple of occasions I did do something bad, I got caught and/ or felt bad about it. I took no enjoyment from rebelling.

About the worst thing I did was spend my night reading fantasy novels when I was supposed to be doing homework. A geek rebellion, if you will.

I argued with my mom a lot and had a lot of anger issues for various reasons. But, I was never rebellious in the typical rebellious way. My mom called me disrespectful just for arguing, even though I never, ever swore or called names or did any of that stuff.

I never even went to a party where there was alcohol until I was in college. I only had a few friends, and they were all smart, quiet kids, too, who never got into trouble. I wouldn't have ever gotten invited to one of the big parties where the drugs, alcohol, and sex were part of the scenery. All those kids were "popular" and I was definitely in the out-crowd.

The only place I was "rebellious" was in my relationship with most of my peers. We didn't see eye to eye, and I was pretty vocal about my opinions, as were they. I just happened to be on the wrong end of the statistics.

I got in trouble for yelling and not doing my chores. But, I look back and know that so many of my problems were related to sensory overload and executive functioning issues. I had meltdowns galore, but as I am undiagnosed, they were mislabeled as my *horrible* behavior. Because being an honor student, award-winning musician, generally obedient, clean-cut kid was not enough.

I didn't. I thought those "typical" teenage things were stupid and irresponsible and dangerous. I was too rule-oriented, morally rigid, anxious, afraid of damaging my brain or dying, mature, logical, etc. and didn't experience a feeling of peer pressure. I never understood peer pressure and why people compromised their morals and safety just to "fit in". My sister did go through that phase though. Majorly.

I've never rebelled in the traditional teenage sense. However, I do rebel by living my life in a way that my mum doesn't agree with. My mum wishes I've never discovered the TV show, Hogan's Heroes. - I watch it anyways. My mum doesn't want me wearing the self made blue German helmet. - I wear it anyways. The more control my mum tries to hold over me, the more I want to do things my way. I won't bring certain things to my parents place anymore out of fear, but I'll do and enjoy those things five times as much when I get back to my apartment. Being the way that I am could also seem like rebellion to my mum when that's not my intent at all. I'm not overseas property that my mum can have control over, I'm a sentient being and I have a mind and a spirit of my own.

i guess i acted out in school for my friends but at home? never

i couldnt act out at home because my dad was so relaxed, accepting and a bit of a pushover and my mom was absent for a majorjity of my teenage years,besides she had explosive anger so every moment i was with her was like defusing a bomb.

i guess my whole life was a rebelious stage.

As a teenager, I was "rebellious" only in that I wanted to take my studies very seriously and my parents didn't like it, so they constantly pressured me to give up time from them to do instead what they told me to. This completely killed my interest in doing other stuff like going out or having hobbies, because I felt my studies were in perpetual danger, as my parents (and, through their influence, everyone else I knew) tried recklessly to get me away from them and couldn't be reasoned with. This was in my late teens.

I had a more typical phase of "teenage" rebellion in my mid twenties. It couldn't have happened if I'd been a respectable, independent adult busy with work and taking care of my life. Instead, I was still entirely dependent on my parents and very unhappy with the way everything in my life had been handled by them that far, letting me have very little choice on anything. One of the first things I wanted to do was actually to look for a job, but I wanted to make it compatible with studying, and, at any rate, I couldn't even do it without asking my parents for a lot of stuff, and didn't have a clue how it's done. Since they disagreed with what I wanted to do, I only managed to waste a lot more precious years arguing with them to no avail. Whatever I managed to get them to agree to one day, they'd vehemently deny the next, seemingly having forgotten they'd previously accepted it.

I'm still in the process of trying to become a functional and independent adult. I've wasted such a huge amount of time the good it can do now is extremely limited.

I never went through that phase either but I did have LOTs of problems like tantrums & meltdowns with my parents sense I was little till I moved out because they're very critical of my Aspie quirks & other mental & physical disabilities & put lots of pressure on me.

Not really nope. Trying to be more independent, but that's about it.

One thing to remember is that popular fictional media really overblow the 'teen rebel' archetype, so that it seems like the majority of teens go through a juvenile delinquent stage, think Bender from 'The Breakfast Club'.

In reality, the rebellious phase in one's adolescence can take on many shapes and forms depending on one's personality. I was a total nerd during my teens (and still am) and I didn't drink, dance, or date like the cool kids, or feel a need to hang with the uncool kids to make a rebellious statement, or do drugs, skip school, vandalize things, etc. I did have arguments and philosophical conflicts with my mother, and felt generally misunderstood, so in that sense I did go through a similar development; it was just a lot more subdued. Around me in school, I didn't particularly notice most classmates going through a highly rebellious phase either,though there were exceptions. But then I left school when I was 16, so it might have come a bit later.

No, I didn't at all. My mother was very intimidating and abusive and I was frightened of her. She saw to it that I didn't have the confidence to be myself. I was 25 before I managed to get away from her

I really regret not having had my youth. It's my biggest regret tbh.

I have a couple of tattoos and piercings now, so that has to do as my rebellious phase

I was a pretty quiet good teenager until I got sick of being a nerdy, smelly, awkward girl who was scared to talk to anyone and spent her lunch breaks in chess club. I moved to live with my dad at the other end of the country when I was 14, reinvented myself and took on a totally different persona. Stopped wearing glasses, changed my name, dyed my hair, started doing girly things, became really loud and obnoxious. I had very little parental support (alcoholic father) and ended up living with my grandma who was quickly developing Alzheimer's. Had a lot of freedom, access to money and went off the rails so to speak. Drinking a lot, sex, shoplifting, skipping school, suicide attempts etc. etc. I think it would have been very different if I'd stayed with my mum, I don't regret a second of though.

I never went through a "rebellious" phase at all.

I wasn't rebellious either. In fact, I kind of settled down more in my teens, because that's when my parents started homeschooling me.

Anyway, in one of my university psych classes, they told us that a third of teens rebel for most of their teen years, a third have rebellious patches in between patches of cooperative behaviour, and a third show no sign of rebellion at all. So not being rebellious as a teen is pretty normal.

I've been exactly the same. I have often wondered why this is. Typical teenagers seem to develop a natural selfishness (which is not bad or wrong in this context, but is a part of the neural changes which go on in adolesence and is part of the way teenagers develop an individual self.

Having taught teenagers and having got so far in raising one too this seems like the normal way of things. But I wonder if autism affects a person's sense of self?

When I was young I used to feel that 'me' was not just me but also included my immediate environment.

One of the reasons I have issues with certain dense noise - like the oddly loud music in advertisments and pop music is that it makes me feel like I'm running temperature. When I was young I couldn't differentiate between the two sensory experiences. Now, although it feels the same mentally, I find out which it is by putting on headphones and seeing if I then feel OK.

ANother example is that if people are shouting at me now I use my logical mind to work out who is shouting and what is happening, but when I was a child I couldn't tell. It felt like a part of me was shouting even when it was someone else.

I just wonder if perhaps this difference in 'sense of self' between some ASD people and some more typical people causes some folk on the spectrum to miss the rebellious teenage stage?

Any thoughts? Do those of you who also missed the rebellious stage have differences in your sense of self?

Ah ok.