What are your social scripts?

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Yet another reason for me to dislike/hate the millenial generation.

I agree people are so invasive when it comes to this thing.

As many of the baby boomers and Gen Xers here agree, asking someone their sexuality is a ridiculously personal thing.

Even friends I wouldn't reveal it too unless they're a good friend I've known for many years.

How does anyone actually see that as a perfectly reasonable question to ask at all?

I'm not saying we should hide and suppress our sexualities and who we are, but who's business is it but our own?

This is why I dislike the concept of 'coming out' of the closet.

I believe there is no closet, it's simply your choice what you reveal of your attraction of others and to whom.

I used to be the kind of person that would answer ALL the questions (I am so very much out of the closet, I never lived in one, I don't understand why that concept exists in the first place): "when did you find out?" "how did that go?" "do your parents know?" "what's the hardest for you?" "have you ever had sex with gender x?" "what do you think about [insert lgbtq scandal here]?".

It's QUITE annoying because I don't see people doing the same questions for straight people. So sometimes I tell them it is actually none of their business and change the conversation, OR, if I am feeling witty, I ask them a bunch of person questions to see if they like it, and then leave. Though I do not recommend that because it is quite boring to listen to their answers, and apparently it gives off the wrong impression.

Either way you don't have to answer ANYTHING unless YOU want to.

So, if people ask about your sexuality, and like me, you actually want to tell them because "Hey! Activism!", then I usually say:

"I am queer. Queer for me is everything that is not straight; it is what explains me better than any other label out there, and I am free to define myself as I see fit." If they ask to specify genders, then I would answer "I am into the person that I fall in love with and thus attracted to. So I can't answer you specifically. It could be a woman, genderfluid, transgender, or whatever identity that person has". Maybe you are already in a relationship, which is even better "I am queer, and am in a relationship with this person" (that tends to shut people off).

By dropping a bunch of information onto them, then you surely do not sound confused

I have a few "automatic" responses to social interaction. One is if someone tells me about something I don't really understand I say "ah, ok!" In a nice interested-sounding voice.

Yes! "Ah cool" "Nice nice" "Sweet" "Awesome!" Especially when I am in a crowded place and can't hear properly. Then I just want the discussion to go away quickly, as I can't even try and think properly.

^^^ Something you mentioned kinda reminds of how I react when asked about that sort of personal thing publicly (as in, not a private, closed off discussion) is one of two ways.

1.) If in the proper frame of mind, I'll go all mork on them
a). "when did you find out?" When I got the rebate notice from the stork, that feather brain...

b). "how did that go?" Thataway...with some crazy arm movements and sound effects...maybe even the scarecrow pointing in both directions

c). "do your parents know?" Naw...they're waiting on the revised manual

d). "what's the hardest for you?" Probably diamond to tell you the truth, but iron and lead hurts like a mother though....

e). "have you ever had sex with gender x?" No, no, you have it confused...it's XX, XY, XXY, XYX, and then go off on an alphabet tear...but if I do, I let you know ASAP because I know you need this PDQ on the QT with the Form AXVNuN yo bidness...

Or,
2.) I just go blank. At those times all I can think of is..."seriously?" that usually stops it. But, maybe not so good with the younger people here. They seem to have a lot of people who think they need to know intimate details.

Exactly! That's how it is for me! I'm trying to concentration on my surroundings and I can't keep up with what the other person is saying, but I don't want to sound rude.