Fakest Friendship Ever

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I be careful who I trust on Facebook. I only communicate with friends, family and WPers on there. I don't dare seek out people from my past. Those people might not be too crazy about me.

I didn't seek out the past he did because he has his own mental issues when it comes to wrestling old situations that should have been over with months ago. I tried keeping quiet and discreet and I was able to successfully do so for months but now hes sort coming out as a threat and a huge problem because he doesn't want to let go of things. Instead he wants to rehash old news in an effort to turn people against me and pretend hes doing the right thing, when in actuality hes acting very much like the bully he claims I am. If he loves to convince himself that hes a good person and likes to pretend he always does the right thing then he should not try to maliciously turn people against me months after the issue is over. Whatever drama our past relationship had does NOT allow him to resurrect a long dead issue and humiliate me in front of others. I still have friends and relationships worth keeping and fighting for and the last thing I need him to do is to convince actual good people to stay away from me.

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I agree with you that facebook can be a warzone when it comes to certain relationships. But I was pretty happy with ignoring this person from my past until he decided to start this fire up again on his recent facebook post.

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Reconciliation is impossible at this point. He will never budge from his hateful perception of me. He has this made up belief that I'm sick in the head and need to be locked up, and he wont change his viewpoint probably until his dying day when hes old and grey. But the sad fact he probably will be thinking about me for the rest of his life in some way. He will be stuck on this hateful viewpoint and wont be able to really grow out of it or be mature enough to just stop beating the dead horse. He may go on to do some interesting things in his life but his anger towards me will still be an occasional memory and recurring thought. When hes in a nursing home long after hes lived most of his life he'll still be seeing me as the devil incarnate. He lives in a sheltered environment where dysfunctional internet relationships is the worst thing hes seen, he doesn't have enough rich life experiences to know that there is worse in this world. He doesn't have enough rich life experiences to know what malice the world is capable of outside the internet. I doubt he will shake off the attitude or the memories hes had of me, he's just wired a certain way that certain things stick to him for a long time.

Now my OCD is bad to, but I had the courtesy and decency to leave him alone after he exited my life and following this I remained discreet about the issue to my real facebook friends. I took the moral high ground and ignored him and began to forget about this dysfunctional relationship we once had. And what he does is try to start this problem up again in an effort to turn people against me. That is a type of bullying that this guy is doing and he doesn't even realize it because hes delusional enough to think that this trash-talk is somehow justified. He will never learn that turning people against others through gossip is socially unacceptable. He considers himself a good Christian man then he maliciously trashes anyone he perceives as being misbehaved or anti-social. What happened to turning the other cheek, or just taking the higher moral ground and ignoring these things. No, hes unfortunately stuck in the past in some ways, and dead set on trying to revisit bad memories and events in order to sink my reputation and convince everyone he knows on facebook to ostracize me. Hes just a hypocrite because he pretends to me Mr. Good Guy then he goes on to do this malicious stuff.

Wait. He blocked you months ago and he's still talking crap about you? That actually sounds kind of dangerous. Like, he might be a stalker dangerous. And apologizing to him sounds to me like a terrible idea. Keep yourself safe. You already blocked him. It might be time to report him. Maybe that's why people told you he was still posting about being angry at you? Because that's a clear sign that this guy is deranged. People get angry on fb, but it doesn't last more than a day or so, and it's certainly over once you've decided to block. It might be worth asking your local police to look into the matter. You are right in that this is liable. He is actually breaking the law.

The reason why I thought an apology would be a good idea because with my own OCD, I sometimes cannot move on and quit talking about it unless I get get an apology from that person and it means so much to me, I am able to heal and let go of all the hurt and move on. It doesn't hurt to try.

But that man is an example why you must keep your feelings and hurt bottled up because it looks just like that the OP is describing and we all have to learn, including us OCDers, to accept that not everyone is going to apologize and see it from your perspective and then try and make you feel better with an apology.

If you do apologize and he still doesn't feel better and move on, now you know he is evil and it's all his problem now and it's all on him. I have done it before and then make it be all their problem because I had given them the apology to get them off my back and to leave me alone. I then just figure they like to hold grudges and be that way or otherwise they would have moved on and felt better after my apology.