How you come across online vs. in real life

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Yep...that's the way to live.

You play your game. And you play it fair.

picture please

I tell easier online and I´m less shy. I think that it´s easier because I don´t have to be concentrating on body language and I don´t have to reply rigth away.

Negative, sorry, lol. Not to be mean and I know you're only asking jokingly! I can be myself here and don't intend to ruin it by posting my pics or anything else traceable.

I also struggle with misunderstanding people's motives, and 'taking things the wrong way'. I think I genuinely suffer from paranoia, and have a tendency to interpret comments as being cruel toward me, when they weren't intended that way. (Or maybe they were? My problem is I honestly don't know, and can't tell the difference!)

This makes any kind of interaction difficult for me, but I'm learning to cope with it by trying to be respectful, fair, and clear in my own communications, regardless of whether other people were intentionally trying to be antagonistic toward me.

Also, 'not adhering to herd mentality' is one thing, but at some point I have to wonder if I'm just this completely horrible, wrong person, for never being able to find acceptance anywhere. (Again, not a complaint, just an examination of my situation!)

In real life these are non-issues, because I just smile and nod and try to fit in. Online, it's more of a problem.

In real life I can be a hell of allot more annoying, I tend to act more autistic then what I actually am and ask narrow specific questions frequently. However some things stay the same, I still enjoy arguing sometimes in real life. Sometimes I can be a little more aggressive in real life in that regard. I am allot more loud or quiet in real life depending on the situation.

Last edited by Shahunshah on 28 Dec 2016, 9:23 pm, edited 2 times in total.

You come across just fine, to me.

It's more likely people are jealous of you
or unwilling to let a newcomer into their clique.

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I am shy and don't talk to people unless I know them and have something relevant to say or if someone asks me something. As to how other people perceive me, not entirely sure. I have a hard time verbalizing what is in my head. I avoid eye contact. Online, how do you perceive me?

My conversation is better online than it is in person, it's much easier to write what I want to say. I still get stuck in online situations sometimes though.

I obviously don't seem intelligent to some people in real life, but I think that's them as much as it is me. I am quiet though not shy; some interpret stupidity, some observation. If engaged on literature, art, any of my passions, I can speak very well. I am good in academic contexts, not so much in casual ones.

I am more emotional on WP than in real life. In the real world I do not express emotions except behind closed doors. WP is where I am most honest in this regard.

Your avatar is scary with the big eyes ...

but his avatar means well.

Thanks for the feedback (and likewise to you!)

I think one of my problems is that I rarely express 'popular' opinions, because I figure it's already being said by lots of other people, and I don't need to add to that. So I tend to only say something if my viewpoint is different than what's already being said by others. And that makes it seem like I'm always the one with the unpopular opinion.

Maybe I should balance it out with more "me too" posts

and what of a name that includes the word "menace" ?

In real life I am withdrawn, aloof and nonverbal.

Last edited by EzraS on 28 Dec 2016, 10:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.

his bite has more of a menacing bark than a menacing bite, as he hinted at in his reply.

People looking for friends like to share what they have in common.
Even if it's as simple as both liking the same color or the same flavor of ice cream.
And if you're silent because of the simple mere fact that you agree ...
people are going to overlook you
and communicate instead with the people who are posting.

Also, if the only time you ever post is to put up an unpopular opinion,
people will wonder if you're doing it on purpose,
either because you're always out of step with everybody else,
or even as a mild form of trolling?

Not that I've ever seen you as trolling.
I've just seen you as pretty quiet
and as someone who hasn't seemed to want to communicate with me before.

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