Living on your own with ASD, advice?

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Then can you explain by what you mean by "dumping your emotional problems"?

1) Learn to enjoy cooking. The more tricks you know the better you're able to eat, so long as there's food in the cupboards.

2) Make the place yours, don't hold it up to neurotypical ideals. Live cross-legged on a pile of cushions in the corner if you want. (I live cross legged on a pile of cushions..)

3) Get in to the habit of always picking things up and tidying things away as soon as you see them out of place.

4) Gather/beg/steal angle poise lamps and adjustable lighting so you can feel cocooned when needed.

5) Keep a house diary/calendar and use it. Put all dates that bills will land on, when boilers need to be inspected, date you moved in, everything and anything to do with upkeep. Make a habit of checking it in the morning for that day and a few days ahead. Use it for working out how long it took to finish your last grocery shop etc.

6) Only have around people that you want around. It's your place and it's up to you who you let in. When you do have guests around, spoil them out of habit. Put out a big coffee table book for people to browse when you're not chatting. Get a coffee press/percolator/Nespresso/whatever and keep them topped up. Getting known for being a considerate host is nice.

7) Don't get a pet unless you're old, stable, and mature enough to look after its every need for the next 16 years.

Also make a habit out of washing the dishes every day. Don't put it off. That was one of the most disgusting mistakes I made when I moved out on my own.

Pick up messes as soon as you notice them. It's not about impressing anyone, or having company over. It's about the fact that this is a much faster, more efficient way to keep house. Letting it pile up until it becomes overwhelming sucks. I have learned the skill of breaking overwhelming jobs into smaller tasks-- and letting it pile up until it becomes overwhelming still sucks.

Sort and discard/organize papers often. Like, twice a week if you are in school or anything like that that generates a lot of paper. It's a miracle my first place didn't burn down or collapse under the weight of the paper.

And pick a day for laundry, and do laundry on that day. Whether you want to or not. Write it down on the calendar. You're by yourself, you should only make a couple loads a week, including towels and bedding. But falling behind on the laundry still sucks.