Finding the real you

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I identify with that.

I've done some really stupid things in order to conform.

The things I did were not indicative of my "true self" in any sense or fashion.

I rediscovered the real me about six years ago after a phase of trying to be a scene kid/goth lite/metalhead.

I had been trying to be the real me for a few years prior to this phase before my depression. During the depression, I threw everything out of the window because I could no longer take it. Now I'm the real me, a glam rocker, and I'm proud of it.

I have no idea what the real me is. Everyone evolves and changes and we all learn over time. What exactly is our real selves?

When I first got diagnosed and had the explanation for so much in my I had a real problem with what was true learned skills an add on to the real me and what was me faking out myself. I came to the reluctant conclusion that the Autism part of me and other parts of me are so fused togeather as to be indistinguishable.

The real me? The real me is someone who wants independence. I want to be free and find out what I want to do in the future. Is it such a dangerous question? Every time I mention what I want, I get laughed at and ridiculed.

Most 14-year-old kids aren't ready for that sort of exploration.

Kraft, I agree. I just feel like I'm too dependent. I heard it's common amongst American teenagers. Maybe my mind is stuck in the past (though I wasn't alive) when kids started working at thirteen. I still have a little more than a year until I can start driving. I feel as if I'm worthless, because I get too bored too easily. When I go to college, I'm leaving this boring place I live in and I'll never look back.

I know what you mean. I hated being dependent at 14, too. I couldn't wait until I turned 18 so I can get the heck out of my mother's house. For economic reasons, I had to wait until I was 20, though.

I think your desire to be free and not dependent is healthy, actually.

I bet you'l get your license at 16 like many kids. Not like me, who waited until he was 37.

Besides, as I get slightly older, I'll get more dependence. I can do more things now than when I was 10. I only need to keep myself occupied in the eternally boring school. Good luck to me and everyone who has issues in their lives.

In the late 19th-early 20th century, kids sometimes started working as young as about 6 years of age. They had to quit school in order to provide income for their families. Companies took advantage of their youth, and paid them, frequently, less than half the adult wage.

From where I live, people lives with their parents even after they married, even after having children and grandchildren, and are not accused of being a dependent. It's mostly the other way around -- parents lives with their child, not their (grown up) child living with parents.

Usually, it's the eldest because they inherit the house.
Both for economical and cultural reasons... Mostly the latter.

It's impossible to have your own place before the age of 30 (it doesn't matter if you start working at 16, or well, at 6) unless you're rich or lucky. Or prefer to be stuck at renting for most of your life (which IS my family's case), or become a squatter.


But sure, I DO want a life of my own... But being on my own is almost impossible, not because of ASD. This culture does not truly allow 'solitary', no matter how capable I could become. And why I like keeping my secrets.

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