Do you feel sorry for autistic kids?

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Not particularly. My life, while obviously not being "normal" as an NT would see it, is plenty comfortable.

People leave me alone and I leave them alone. There are no fights and no drama. I will never divorce and get my life destroyed in an instant. I will never have children and become estranged or have them taken from me. A dog and God are plenty sufficient for my companionship and spiritual needs and my family and I get along splendidly. I feel no peer pressure and no need to "keep up with the Joneses". I do not participate in the rat race, money being secondary and status being utterly insignificant.

Because I am considered disabled, the government puts money in an investment account to my name in the form of $20,000 in bonds, and I can also put my own money in the pot : the government triples the first $1,500 and doubles the next $1,000. I will never be destitute in retirement. I have no needs outside the basics and my interests (which are not expensive at all to enjoy), so it is easy for me to save and difficult to acquire debt.

I carry my cross, and of course sometimes I get depressed, knowing the price I pay for having autism in a society that is not made for the likes of me. I know that there are things I'll never get to enjoy. But I've found that with time and introspection, those pangs diminish. The trick is to realize that what the idea of "normal" we are taught to achieve is utterly foreign to us and not even targeted at us. It shouldn't and doesn't concern us, so we need to adjust our expectations accordingly.

An NT's life is a series of ups and downs, great triumphs and great disappointments. That is "normal" life. NTs know what it is to romantically love somebody but they also know what it's like to lose the person they love. They know marriage but also divorce (in the majority of cases). They know the elation of having good friends at their side and doing things with them, but also loneliness.

My life is flattened : there are fewer lows, but also fewer highs, and they tend not to be as intense. I give up on some things but gain others. I give up risk and acquire stability, for example. I give up on progeny and matrimony and acquire free time. That is a bargain I can tolerate. This society is made for those who like taking big risks where they can win big and lose big. I'm happy to content myself with my lot, never really winning but never really losing either.

If I could choose, I would be born NT. But after realizing I could never become NT or even truly functional in this society, I've made do with what God has given me. It's not that bad. I find joy in the world around me rather than in other people. I can enjoy moving music, beautiful paintings, the Sun's light rays breaking through a forest's canopy, friendly dogs and good books as well as any NT. Humans live a mere 80-85 years. There is too much to enjoy to waste time mourning what we won't get to.

Yes in general due the stigmas, stereotypes, bullying cyber or otherwise, the hours of ABA, and whatever direct Autism caused disabilities exist. The proceding is a general statement that does not apply to all autistics and may be based on misinformation and my own stereotypes.

I don't. If anything, I'm likely feel sorry towards anyone who are inherently needy, in any form or another.

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I would adopt, but the only thing about that is I wouldn't be able to breastfeed, and I'd love to breastfeed. Breasts only develop milk if you get pregnant.

No, I don't. Everyone should be treated respectfully no matter who they are though.(Race,gender,disability,etc.)
Everyone has things that they struggle at, and things they excel at, things that they are born with or develop. It's just a part of life, to make mistakes and to struggle sometimes.

In a weird way, I'm excited to see what struggles my daughter (NT) has as she grows up because I know that she will learn from them and they will help shape who she it.

If they're "higher functioning", I really don't feel sorry for them. I've been getting through life decently as of now and I always have been. If they have a bad home situation, then I would feel sorry for them. When I was younger, I always liked school, because I had such a great memory. As for ones who can't be classified as "higher functioning", it depends. Are they nonverbal? Throwing constant tantrums? I do feel sorry for them, because it isn't their fault.

I feel sorry for people who are unable to accept autistic children and adults, as they are instead of trying to change them.