Is it a lie there someone out there for everybody?

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i do not know.
considering the population of the world, i guess there is someone in it who is most like you. but i do not think you will ever find them.

there is one thread going about someone being ugly and unloveable. i did not contribute to it, but there is a type of female that has what is known as a "nurse maid" mentality and they are drawn to unfortunate people who they feel sorry for and that includes people who are suffering due to extreme unattractiveness.
in my armchair speculation, i guess that they very much need to care for unfortunate people to salve a deep seated unconscious guilt about something.

so one may say "i don't want to be loved for the pity factor" , but there are some who need to love you for their own happiness if they feel sorry for you.

i am generic looking and neither attractive nor unattractive, but it is very difficult to communicate with me and i do not have empathy (which also leads to no one else having empathy for me as a result because they do not know what i feel (if anything)), but i do have one quality that some people may find attractive, and that is that i do not consider anything to be serious or important on an emotional level.

people can see i am immune to external opinions about me and also immune to loneliness and i look content, so they look to me when they are drowning in some emotionally agonizing frenzy and i always calm them down.
some people like that in me and others find it repulsive.

you're not in the world for very long anyway so whatever your fears, they are surely temporary.

i think that being able to calm others down is a good quality to have.

yes but on the other hand, failing to bolster someone's euphoric expressions is not a good trait to have.

it all evens out in the long run.

I sometimes fantasize about what life would be like if I was born in, say, an Amish community where everyone dressed the same, ate the same foods, went to the same schools, attended the same church, tended the same farm, grew the same vegetables, practiced the same profession and had the same beliefs.

I suppose such a life might be preferable to one where I'm an outsider, where I barely fit in anywhere. Would I be happy in Amishville though? As a matter of fact, would that even matter? It's definitely no fun growing up alone, devoid of a meaningful relationship, being the square peg in a world of round holes. In my case, coupled with other mental issues, it led to a life of drug and alcohol abuse.

I'd hate to settle for just anyone but sometimes I think I don't have a choice. I wasn't dealt as good a hand as others, but such is life. It is what it is. Some of us will fall in love and have kids, and some won't.

A case of following a shoe that fits your own.

I believe in energies and blockages. If you have the "wrong energy" the person will not find you, you also can be blocked in a emotional way and telling the universe you are not ready.

^ I wonder: do people who exude the "wrong energy" possess the capability of "righting" themselves? Are they even cognizant of the fact they emit negative energies? I think it could be one of those anosognosia deals.

Anosognosia is a deficit of self-awareness, a condition in which a person who suffers some disability seems unaware of the existence of their disability.