Things You Were Delayed With

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I had very few if any developmental delays, but it did take me much longer than most kids to learn to tie my shoelaces, know left from right, or tell time on a standard clock. I was far ahead when it came to reading and writing but math was a huge struggle, and phys. ed wasn't great, either. I've had a long history of problems with my ears. I've gotten a lot of infections and tubes put only about a million times and when I was a teenager the doctor once said my ear canals weren't developing into the shape that adults have that make them less prone to infections.

Pretty much everything.
I started finally saying single syllable words occasionally when I was 8, but I still can't hold a verbal conversation.
Didn't start walking until I was around 3.
Half my developmental problems are my dyspraxia however.
I'm pretty much like a little kid or invalid in many ways in what I can't do and need help with.
But I get by okay all the same. I know others in worse situations.

Physically I developed just fine. I started walking and using my hands to hold stuff just like everyone was. Plus I learned how to pee in the toilet just fine. It was pooping in the toilet that was the problem. Just didn't like it. Don't know why but didn't. Plus getting jokes later than my peers and social problems. And still delayed on the last 2. And probably always will. Plus when a classmates references something bad. I won't get it while the rest of the class get's it and laughs. And I'm like "What?"

Yep.....I still am the last one to "get it" frequently when it comes to "inside jokes."

People laugh at my naivete.

I did manage to learn to tie my shoelaces "properly" after much practice when I was 10. I learned to ride a bike at age 7 1/2.

I couldn't write until I was about 6 1/2, though I could read books when I was 5 1/2. I couldn't dress myself until around the age of 6.

I was a very short kid, and it showed most when I got into junior high. I didn't reach 5 feet until I was 14 1/2. I'm still just under 5 foot 5.

I really couldn't drive a car until I was in my 30's.

Like I said before, I didn't speak until age 5 1/2. I did get toilet-trained at 2 1/2, though.

Yeah I do a lot of "what?" too. And also I'll laugh at something no one does. Then everyone else is "what?".

I was only slightly delayed when it came to talking, but I did have a hard time pronouncing the "S" sound, so I saw a speech therapist for many years. I didn't get my driver's license until I was in my late 20's, and that was only out of necessity since public transportation in my area isn't as good as it is in other cities. I also have never been able to get a job after going through the interview process alone, so I haven't been able to support myself through a career. What got me to get diagnosed with Asperger's was being kicked out of an internship program because they required you to be interviewed first.

Dressing (still couldn't put on a shirt at age 6)
Recognising hunger (realised I was hungry for the 1st time at age 7.5)
Reading
Using utensils (to this day, my dad can't help but intervene when he watches me make a mess with them)
Self-awareness
So nothing major

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THere were no alarming delays for me, in the sense of like walking and talking. They were normal.

However, toilet training took 2 years, i never learned to tie my shoes, i learned to ride a bycycle at a later age than most kids and it took about a week to master it while most kids get it on their first try. Holding pencils and scissors was a challeng.

An then i had a different kind of delay, i played with toys well into my teens and didnt find myself craving sex at a normal age, i also wasnt developing social skills at a regular rate, and still havent really. Like my interests were not age appropriate and never developed a sense of style.

Interesting how many weird things are alike. I still can't tie shoes - I do the bunny ears thing still as an adult if I have to, but if things have laces I just leave them tied and slip them on/off instead, wear slip on boots/shoes, velcro, etc. Still can't use knives/forks to eat normally, so I prefer chopsticks (which is odd considering others find chopsticks hard and cutlery easy, but my kind of food is easier eaten with chopsticks anyway) and I still find talking to be difficult as an adult. Didn't drive or move out of my parents' house for the first time until mid 20's. Still have so much trouble with math that I avoid small change. Never dated or was interested in sex until probably late twenties, though even now I'm not normal in those areas, probably never will be. I never displayed normal childhood things such as seeking to be touched or interacting with caregivers.
I seem to be ten years or so delayed in all ways. What others do as teenagers, I did in my twenties and so on.
Some things just never developed - emotionally I'm alexithymic, socially restricted to interest groups and have difficulty understanding friendships or relationships, I just haven't caught up with the "adult life" thing at all.
I was very delayed with physical things - never grew much and am still very small for my age/ethnicity, didn't enter puberty until about 17, complete with abnormal delays in developmental bone growth and so on for no discernible reason (as in I wasn't sick). I still look like a child. Which I don't mind anyway. My ears also never developed properly and were plugged from birth until I was about 11 (unbeknownst to me). Teeth developed late.
Everything's late.

driving
math
read between the lines
BAD memory
some motoric problems
never been married
talk fluetely (doesn´t go well)

reading(but now i can read at a college level)
riding a bike(10)
wiping myself(8)
potty training(4)

Delayed emotionally
Reading comprehension, for i use to read a whole book and not remember any of it. Not a problem anymore.
Spoke with a lisp until i was in my late teens.
Didn't get jokes until i was in my twenties
Socially delayed, and still consider myself delayed socially. Still don't get along with others very well.
Got my drivers license at 16 like others, but got so many speeding tickets within the first six months, it was suspended for six months.
Was married at 21(pregnant girlfriend), but it lasted only six months. Have not married since, and have trouble maintaining a relationship. Good relationship with my daughter though.
Overall i consider myself still immature for my age (47).

I was fully potty-trained before my second birthday.

I said my first word at 14 months.

I learnt to walk at 11 months.

My first smile was at 3 weeks old (and no it wasn't gas).

Basically I wasn't delayed in anything below 4 years old. After 4 years old, I got slow at learning some things.

But I did learn to ride a bike (without stabilizers) at age 5, not sure if that's early, late or average.

I think I first learnt to read at age 6, though I knew a lot of letters before then. I needed extra help with writing but I think it was due to inattentiveness. I caught up by age 7.

I've always been delayed at maths. Even now I can only do the very basics. My social skills are better than my math!

I struggled with the althabet after the letter K, but finally knew how to say the whole alphabet when I got to 8 years old. I was OK at telling the time, I think.

I didn't wear lace-up shoes as a kid so I took longer to learn to tie shoelaces, but I think I would have picked it up quicker if I wore shoes with laces more. I learnt how to tie a school tie rather quickly (I only needed to be shown once or twice and then got the hang of it).

After age 11 nobody played childish games at school any more, so, like my peers, I grew out of wanting to play once I hit high school (except for age-appropriate games). So I wasn't delayed in that, although I still did silly things like yell out "Jynx!" when I said something the same time as someone else, when I was 14, and the other girls told me that we were a bit past that sort of thing. Also I used to write the inititals of boys I liked on my hand when I was 15-16, and I was told that was a "younger kid" thing.

So there were little things I was a bit behind with but nothing major. Oh, and sometimes I would cry like a little kid when I was 14. I remember I wanted to wear make-up but didn't know how to put it on, so I got my mum to do it. I kept blinking and moving as she was trying to apply my eye make-up, and we were in a hurry too, so she got annoyed and yelled at me, and I started wailing loudly like a 4-year-old.

Some things are OK and socially appropriate for girls to cry about, as girls do typically get emotional, but some of the things I cried about as a teenage girl were childish.

I started puberty at 11, and started my periods at 13. So I wasn't delayed with puberty.

I was unable to shower without my mother's help until I was 11. Learned to tie my shoes when I was 9. Learned to walk by myself in the street when I was 13. Took me 2 years to learn how to ride a bike.

I mentioned I was ahead when it came to reading and writing, anyone else here *ahead* of NT people in any way?

It's hard to recollect but maybe a few.

Riding a bike- was nearly 14.
Getting jokes people tell.
Drawing. Still draw like a 6 year old or so.
Writing. Had writing lessons when I was 11-12.
Never could do a somersault.