Being verbal kinda sucks

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I think one of our biggest problems is that most people do not understand this.

If the communication would work, yes.

I personally am not satisfied with the fact that everyone assumes that just because i can and do speak i am also able to get my point across and communicate my needs so they are understood.

Since i know i cannot force everyone else to start reading my mind or learning my way of communicating, AAC is kind of a "middle of the road" alternative, for me at least.


Writing things down is much easier than speaking, for me.

I agree, I have a much easier time writing than speaking, as it takes me a while to organise my thoughts. I'm also far more eloquent when I write than when I speak; my sentence structure is far more organised and sophisticated. I have an AAC app on my tablet for emergencies, and I really wish I could use it as my primary form of communication without my friends and family thinking I'm just being weird, or trying to get attention. I often feel "talked over" as well, and I feel that alternative communication like AAC would make people more inclined to stop and listen to what I have to say. Don't know if it's true or not, but it's a nice idea I have.

With the exception of my friends and family, I really have zero interest in what's going on in the lives of others; I find it extremely boring to meet new people and have to listen to them go on about their lives. My dad and I had a conversation recently about how meeting new people is "interesting". I find new people interesting if the share or embody my interests, but my dad says most NTs find people interesting if they're culturally or situationally different from others, giving them unique stories to tell. I'm just never interested in the random stories of people I don't know well.

I really hate having to be verbal. This occurred to me again today. I hate speaking. Hate it. Would be happy never to speak again. I hate people coming at me and demanding that I be verbal. No one understand this.

I agree. I really dislike speaking.

I can usually speak fairly fluently when I am with someone whom I am comfortable with but in certain situations it's almost painful. When I'm around new people I tend to mostly speak in single words or discreet echolalia or gestures as it is far easier. When I'm around new people I'm always afraid that I will say something strange or make a joke they won't understand or forget how to say something. Its so much easier in writing because I can think about what I am saying and make corrections.

I also get into this state where I am completely unable to verbalize when I need help or need to ask a question or need to introduce a new topic. I might be able to say other things in hopes that I can steer the other person to understand what I need but I can't outright say it without a lot of struggle. By that time I'm usually really close to meltdown.