Unexpected Incidents...

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Apparently my father (who probably had AS) would get really really mad when he lost stuff. I get really stressed out, but I try not to go nuts about it, but it is really upsetting.

I'm worse about schedule changes (ie unexpected incidents). I didn't even realize I was until about two years ago, when my ex-girlfriend (she was ex at the time...long story) pointed it out to me (not in a mean way, just like, "yeah, I know that's how you are")

I need to know exactly what's going to happen ahead of time, and am really upset if it changes.

Luckily, once I figured out I do that, it's at least a LITTLE better since I can think, "oh, I'm having an unreasonable freaked-out-ness reaction because I'm wired that way"

When I get super stressed from things I can't deal with at the time (for whatever reason) I start pacing, my OCD symptoms get worse, I sort of hyper ventilate (I don't think really, but I breath heavier) and if things get super bad I throw things (not to hurt anyone or anything like that). I've wrecked my Tivo remote and my Palm doing that

Getting shut out of my home is one of the worst things that can happen. I react very badly.
I also hate unexpected visits from people.

i have a flipout session

I usually swear profusely and turn the house upsidedown looking fo rit, or trying to solve it.

I don't deal well with anything unexpected. I think the best way to explain it is feeling lost, and helpless. If I lose something, I panic because I'm never sure where to start looking, or how to go about it. The last time I lost my keys, I cancelled everything I had to do that day, cried for a while, and then, while still crying, started looking for my keys.

I don't often lose things because I've gotten very systematic about what I do when I leave, where I keep my keys when I'm out, and what I do when I come home. Similarly, I used to lose my glasses all the time, but I rarely do now because I only put them in one designated spot in each room.

If something unexpected happens during my day, I get very upset about that. If part of my day requires travelling, I leave at least an extra half hour so that if I get lost, or if something comes up, I have time to calm down, figure out what to do, and then do it.

I do impose regularity in my life because otherwise I'm a wreck. I get very scattered, and I become unsure of what I have done, what I haven't done, and what I should do next. My significant other does his best to accommodate that need for regularity (letting me know what he would like to do ahead of time, not interrupting when I'm getting ready to go out etc.), and I do my best to remain as flexible as possible, or at least to stay calm when something comes up so that I'm able to deal with it.

I find it hard to cope when unexpected things happen no matter what it is that has actually happened.

Yes, when I lost my little bag, had it had my phone and money and card in it, but not my keys, my reaction wouldnt have been so bad.
I suppose some of us come to see our homes/rooms/apts are our refuge from everything...security.
It is like, when something like that happens, it is going to last forever...you only see that moment in time.
Is this black and white thinking connected, I wonder, I have read that it is.