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29 May 2007, 8:51 pm

I visited some friends not that long ago that I have been friends with for 10-15 years... it was like being a stranger. Of course after that long being gone, it's expected to an extent, but they were talking about things we did in high school and such, and just absolutely nothing from me...

I felt like I just didn't belong, and I constantly kept shuffling and making sure I wasn't in their way as they walked around and talked. It was actually pretty depressing. Not the first time that's happened to me though-and that can even be within just a week of seeing people.



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29 May 2007, 9:00 pm

I feel that way all the time. I even feel that way here on this website.



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29 May 2007, 10:09 pm

I'm sorry, Yoshie.



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30 May 2007, 9:36 pm

nobodyzdream wrote:
I visited some friends not that long ago that I have been friends with for 10-15 years... it was like being a stranger. Of course after that long being gone, it's expected to an extent, but they were talking about things we did in high school and such, and just absolutely nothing from me...

I felt like I just didn't belong, and I constantly kept shuffling and making sure I wasn't in their way as they walked around and talked. It was actually pretty depressing. Not the first time that's happened to me though-and that can even be within just a week of seeing people.


Hah... I started a thread on that once, but deleted it because it sounded quite strange when reading it back.

I think I called it "Loss of familiarity". I lose familiarity with people much quicker than I observe others to.
I could live with someone for years and lose it within weeks or a couple months, oh well I suppose it can be gained back if one desires. Hell if I don't see my mothers for a couple months I become quite ill at ease in conversation with her, good thing she is used to it...lol.

Anyhow, just thought it was funny you mentioned it.



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30 May 2007, 10:35 pm

Jett wrote:
nobodyzdream wrote:
I visited some friends not that long ago that I have been friends with for 10-15 years... it was like being a stranger. Of course after that long being gone, it's expected to an extent, but they were talking about things we did in high school and such, and just absolutely nothing from me...

I felt like I just didn't belong, and I constantly kept shuffling and making sure I wasn't in their way as they walked around and talked. It was actually pretty depressing. Not the first time that's happened to me though-and that can even be within just a week of seeing people.


Hah... I started a thread on that once, but deleted it because it sounded quite strange when reading it back.

I think I called it "Loss of familiarity". I lose familiarity with people much quicker than I observe others to.
I could live with someone for years and lose it within weeks or a couple months, oh well I suppose it can be gained back if one desires. Hell if I don't see my mothers for a couple months I become quite ill at ease in conversation with her, good thing she is used to it...lol.

Anyhow, just thought it was funny you mentioned it.


lol, yeah, this happens all the time to me. I go see my bf's family once a month or so, and it's like walking into a room full of strangers every single time-I just don't know how to act. It also happens when I go to my mom's as well. Luckily, she talks about some interesting stuff and really gets going in talking about it, she also seems uneasy if I visit after not being there for a while, lol. But she talks and I listen-that's our whole visit, lol.