Why do people say I'm 'hard work'?

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I'm pretty sure people have viewed me in such terms on many occasions. I've a tendency to microscopically analyse everything a person says and argue a point to death. I've known people put their head in their hands or seize any opportunity to get away while conversing with me. This is also something I've experienced fairly recently from the other direction in my interaction with another spectrumite. It left me hugely frustrated yet was something I could strongly identify with.

Umm,yeah. Kinda hurts.
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who are "People"? how many? one? two? what was the context of your interaction? coworkers? strangers?

without knowing the context. and i ain't telepathic. but, to me, it sounds like it can't be good to tell you you are "Hard Work".

that sounds like, they are saying that they have to interact with you for some functional reason. and it takes a lot of hard work for them to successfully interact with you.

it sounds like, they are trying and failing to maintain a positive attitude

euphemism

new euphemism

seriously though if you wanna know the answer to that question ask them.

but maybe you would be better off not knowing the answer to that question.

@Harry12345: I don't know why people often don't want to listen to our ideas which would improve the way things are done. Aspies in general have better ways of doing things but sometimes folk don't want to listen because they're so used to the way it's "always" been done. Sometimes they fear innovation.

Of course they fear innovation. Innovation changes jobs. Many NTs with good jobs don't want them "improved."
They don't want to learn new stuff to do their job better.

One of my math professors said of himself that people did not as much become his friends as have his friendship imposed upon them. He could be quite insistent about explaining things in conversations, and difficult to convince that one already understood them. He usually had good information to offer, regardless, and had a great sense of humor. He liked himself, and was well-regarded among the students (with a few eye rolls here and there).

I guess accept it, and make sure the work that other people put in getting to know you has good returns for them.

Ask them next time if anyone says it again.

I was once dropped at short notice into another area in my workplace as I was well informed about stock control and they wanted this different area sorting out.

So I went to work in that area for several months and slowly found out why things were going wrong stock wise and suggested what we needed to do about it (which was simply mirror what we did in the other areas...... )

That was fine for awhile until one person stopped doing the suggested changes because it took about 10 seconds longer and they weren't meeting their performance (but not for that reason). Then everyone else found out that this person wasn't doing what I suggested so they all stopped. Slowly but surely the stock went out again.......

Then, when I am asked to go back and "fix it" again and say NO, I am being hard work........

I wasn't hard work at all, but because I had a few problems due to social anxiety in school, I was considered so much hard work by my stupid mother who moaned and groaned and schieked and howled about how hard I was to raise. I never bothered her. I wasn't violent. I didn't say HUGELY inappropriately rude things. I didn't seek her out for anything, let alone to insult or pick on or bother her. I wasn't doing drugs, running away, or even sexually active, but after her acting like I was such hard work I started running away. My dad had to put her right, saying I was an angel compared to my cousins. Farther fields always look greener with her... she said she'd rather have had their problems than mine. What was so f*****g difficult about me???

I remember my first boyfriend saying I am a lot of work and my brother who was 16 at the time asked me if that was a joke. It was very ironic my ex said that because he was more work than me. He didn't want to work and he was expecting the world to work a certain way but couldn't seem to understand his idea won't work and he was anti gov. Anything he didn't like was "ret*d". It was "ret*d" we all had to pay to eat and live and gas prices were "ret*d" and working was "ret*d." I was like his mother supporting him. Also he was so into being himself he alienated himself from his family and he didn't care if he offended you or if anything he did bothered you because it was "who he is." Then he claimed I gave up on him. Gave up on him? He said he didn't want to change. But he was a lot of work.

I hate when people throw the "R" word around freely, especially in the context you describe.

Could you elaborate so people will know what you're getting at?

If your referring to IstominFan's post , it's the word that League_Girl's first boyfriend used to describe anything he didn't like ( rhymes with bombarded ).

I wasn't responding to that post. I was responding to the post of the OP.


Why do I even bother to post anymore?

It was the word he used which is why I had it in quotation marks. I would be lying if i said he called it something else or should I stay silent about it because he used the word or else lie about the word if i do tell it?

Honestly that word started to annoy me because he said it too much. He also used the word about things that didn't make sense. But he didn't seem to be very smart either but i have no idea if that was his schizophrenia. I read they have problems with cognitive and their memories which would explain his problems with memory and remembering how to get to places which he blamed on Ritalin.

Could you tell us more so we know what you're coming from?