Is it ok to say you don't like a friend's favorite film?

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It's interesting that you posed this question. My therapist has been trying to convince me that many people will feel invalidated or disliked if they are negated or you say you dislike something that they like. I find this odd, weird, and I don't understand it. Personally I am like one of the previous posters - if someone dislikes something I like, or likes something I dislike, it won't have an effect on me, positively or negatively, because it is their opinion and the opinion is not about me, it is about the thing/object.. But apparently NTs are different....so telling an NT friend you dislike a film when they like it, while not exactly offensive, could make them feel bad, or at least invalidated. They project it onto themselves and can interpret it as if you are negating them, rather than the film. If you dislike many things that they like and tell them so, then they might not want to associate with you much or may start to have a negative opinion of you because of how this makes them feel. This is all according to my therapist though....

Actually what I find belittling is how some precious lil "people" have the nerve to compliment on my choice of lunch. It's like wtf?

They acted like they had to like something, or else I could not do it

They are so condescending

But they think they are being nice



If someone compliments my merchandise, it's like wtf I did not see or build it

Any insults and it's like why should you have to approve?

Seriously some precious lil "people" are way too judgmental

And will not shut up

They get on my nerves