Can autistic males be mistaken as "effeminate" ?

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As a man, I am overly masculine in my body language and movements. Someone asked me if I was gay because my house is tidy and I'm not married.
There are lots of reasons that people can get the wrong impression. It seems to depend more on their bias than anything I do.

Many autistic people, regardless of gender, have trouble conforming to gender roles. In fact, many transition (half of all trans youths treated in the UK are on the spectrum). Others are comfortable in their birth gender but see themselves as gender nonconforming.

I was born female but have always been far more masculine than feminine. I intend to physically transition in the future, but I can't just now.

If autism is supposed to be a "masculine" disorder, then why are autistic guys supposedly less masculine?

If autism equates to masculinity, then they should be the one's doing the bullying instead of being bullied.

In all my years I hadn't yet thought about this topic as clearly as it is being put here. Maybe even not thought about it at all.
But upon seeing this topic then looking and seeing this,

I think that I can be very aggressive (not violent). Especially if the person or people leading an effort are not efficient. I expressly do not want to follow a procedure that is inefficient.

I was playing in a D&D game with some friends. The story was set in a keep on the borderlands between civilization and the uncivilized wilds. There were various sorts of currency. Their was a banker who would trade light and valuable coin for bulky less valuable coin for 10%. My character simply managed the groups money, would spend the bulky coins, and would keep the valuable coins. I think that me doing so removed some "flavorful" story interaction, but I could not stomach mismanaging resources.

No, as a genderqueer / genderfluid person, when I an in Femme mode there is No mistake.

I could be mistakenly thought gay, though it depends on the nature of the company in question, some men being more wedded to masculinity as a mark of excellence than others. I'm sure I've met guys who would see my dress sense, sensitivity, compassion, vegetarianism, football-indifference or intelligence as a sign of gayness. But I've no idea how many are like that, I seem to unknowingly repel them and have never seen any examples of it in my circle of friends, only acquaintances, and mostly way back in the past when I was a schoolboy or student at the local technical college. I also worked all my life in universities where most folks were pretty well-educated. I haven't been mistaken as gay by anybody in the gay community yet, though I've only knowingly dealt with a few gay folks.

I sometimes get a whiff of it when reading stuff by men on the Web, when they display what to me is a puerile, sex-obsessed mentality about women, and it seems depressingly common. Even when I was a teenager I wasn't too heavily into that. So for example, when a college kid was wondering about the wisdom of having sex with his girlfriend, I asked him "do you love her?" and he was puzzled by that, and didn't answer, and I think it put him off me to a degree. I was a bit of a hippie in those days (I still like a lot of their philosophies), and I think that can be enough to give some men that kind of an illusion about me. I suspect I'm similarly prejudiced the other way round, i.e. I don't allow for the existence of gentle giants, even though I've met one or two.

Just to complicate things more, I often have a somewhat "tough" turn of phrase when I speak, and a facial expression to match, and I'm afraid I don't feel as much patience as I'd like to feel when I notice anybody, male or female, who doesn't fight back when they're attacked, though I usually think it through and don't end up harshly telling them to get a grip. I've wondered a lot about this, and I think it may be down to projection or an over-empathic thing, I just hate to see anybody letting a bully walk over them. I've never equated it with gayness though, one guy I rather like is both gay and of a tough persona, and I'm sure it's not uncommon.

[I sometimes get a whiff of it when reading stuff by men on the Web, when they display what to me is a puerile, sex-obsessed mentality about women, and it seems depressingly common. Even when I was a teenager I wasn't too heavily into that].

Agreed, is it not the case that all the beery. aggressive, team-sports obsessed, violent masculine sub-culture, just dreadfully homo-erotic? I take no particular pleasure in the company of males for this reason. The members of this culture seem desperate to shout about how straight they are.