Anyone Ever Get Tired of Chit Chat?

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I can see that it often has a value. And sometimes I learn really interesting things, like the time on a bus when some guy told me the absolute best way to ever cook chicken. I don't eat chicken so I've never tried it, but I still found it interesting to listen to because he was so confident in it.

I think I got very good at deflecting the conversation because I have social anxiety and feel instinctively that whatever I say will sound silly or will get an awkward response. That's why I have a feeling of annoyance about the whole thing I guess, because it makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't like feeling uncomfortable. I generally end up knowing much more about the other person than they know about me and I feel more comfortable that way. But then I'm not really offering any interesting information to the conversation.

Also sometimes the whole thing makes me feel a little insincere, because I'm not really interested in what they're saying when I'm deflecting, I just want to deflect the conversation away. So it's nice when the other person wants silence too, I don't think they're better people for wanting silence, but it's a relief for me.

Now your experience is cool. It was a worthwhile conversation devoid of the usual questions like children, marital status etc.

Yes but that wasn't really because of my input, ha ha. The chicken on the bus guy was cool though. I generally have little I want to add to the conversation so it's up to the other person to make what they can of it . I just added to my original response before seeing your reply, woops!

I do also hate questions about children and marital status etc. Or questions about dating or significant others etc, ugh. They feel way too personal.

Sounds yummy. Recipes are fun.

It involved baking in the oven with rosemary, and covering with foil was very important. I was just interested in the fact that he'd tried all sorts of chicken and decided - this is it, there will never be better chicken than this and I don't need to keep trying, this is the chicken. It must be really good chicken.

He also told me a place in the mall I was on the way to where I could buy flavored popcorn. I bought several packs for my family (I was Christmas shopping) and they were really good. So it was a very useful conversation! For me anyway!

That chicken sounds good.

People get weirded out when they find out that I have never been in a relationship. Questions about marriage and children can be awkward.

I hate talking for the sake of talking and not being quiet. Anyone trying to chit chat with me will not be successful!

I can't stand it when people try to make conversation just to talk, and my personality naturally rejects such attempts with the one word replies that come to mind. If I don't simply pretend I don't hear them at all - mp3 and earphones FTW!

I'm not one of those who think that everything you say have to be important, insightful or full of information, but I don't speak just to fill someone's idea of "awkward silence" (nor could I, I can never think of anything to say to anyone when I don't have anything in particular to say, ask or comment on). I see no point to it. I like silence.

LOL Ezra.

Yeah people expect you have to relationship baggage by the time you're 16.

When do I not get tired of chit-chat? Not often.

Unless it's with friends, I pretty much either get bored and avoid any sort of chit chat. I can chat up a storm with friends that could last for hours. But with other people, I just want them to shut up most of the time because they are either annoying me or upsetting me in some way.

Small talk is hard. I'm really not good at "passing the ball", I find it difficult to constantly come up with new things to say so I get bored and the conversation dies.

Edit: Ooh, I'm a Raven.

I do, all the time. Especially when it comes to getting together with family...I can't deal with the chit chat.

I don't like it and it feels unnatural to me.
I have always felt like I've observed other people having chit chat and just copied what they've done in order to look and feel normal. It drains me quickly.
I've only recently realised I am not NT.