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01 Jan 2018, 2:23 am

Okay, I guess I am the only member here who thought other peopke had autism traits when they in fact didn't and I was misunderstanding them when they would go "me too" about issues I had.

I guess I am also the only one here who was not bothered when I would hear it happens to everyone or when they would go "me too" because I assumed they had the same struggles as me.


Everyone in this thread obvioulsy only read my title and not my OP. :roll:


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01 Jan 2018, 5:30 am

Lol, alright. :twisted:


No one in my family thinks they're 'like me' and none of them try to 'sympathize' me for whatever problems I had.
'Me too' -- no one said ever. :lol: And as I said in my previous post, I never suspected any adults. Much less my family.

So I do have a clear grip that no one around me would truly understand what I'm going through or how I deal with things.

The closest I had would be my SPED teacher who still is in touch with me. She fancies the idea that she might be in the spectrum herself -- yet I don't think she is. Not even the slightest.
As far as she told me her stories, she's just an introvert NT with certain exposures in certain types of hardships (that I haven't been) and somewhat a late bloomer in social things before her adulthood from the way I see it -- she thought I'm like that too. :lol:
Yet in reality, she only compares things -- either it's the human thing with the problems and all that can have both NT and ND do have, or superficial stuffs like liking and disliking the same things. :| Were you referring to the former?

Granted. I'm the only aspie she'd ever known.


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01 Jan 2018, 9:36 am

I think both my mom and dad do.


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01 Jan 2018, 9:39 am

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Lol, alright. :twisted:


No one in my family thinks they're 'like me' and none of them try to 'sympathize' me for whatever problems I had.
'Me too' -- no one said ever. :lol: And as I said in my previous post, I never suspected any adults. Much less my family.

So I do have a clear grip that no one around me would truly understand what I'm going through or how I deal with things.

The closest I had would be my SPED teacher who still is in touch with me. She fancies the idea that she might be in the spectrum herself -- yet I don't think she is. Not even the slightest.
As far as she told me her stories, she's just an introvert NT with certain exposures in certain types of hardships (that I haven't been) and somewhat a late bloomer in social things before her adulthood from the way I see it -- she thought I'm like that too. :lol:
Yet in reality, she only compares things -- either it's the human thing with the problems and all that can have both NT and ND do have, or superficial stuffs like liking and disliking the same things. :| Were you referring to the former?

Granted. I'm the only aspie she'd ever known.



Have you told your teacher you don't think she is and she is just introverted and a late social bloomer? Does she ever feel it impacts her life?


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01 Jan 2018, 12:12 pm

Cool story, Aristophanes. It shows the usefulness of autistic people. He was a brave kid at 11, and saved the whole collective in the middle of the Great Depression.



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01 Jan 2018, 12:24 pm

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Cool story, Aristophanes. It shows the usefulness of autistic people. He was a brave kid at 11, and saved the whole collective in the middle of the Great Depression.

Well, they would have gotten by without the tractor, as they had the two decades beforehand, but it would have been really, really rough. I actually forgot the best part of the story: he got his ass spanked once for sneaking out, once for breaking into the barn, once for disassembling the tractor when he was forbidden from touching it, and then the town got together pulled their resources and made him a pie-- the sourest pie beets can make as he described it (it was the best they could do, again, middle of the depression and dirt poor farmers). I have the utmost respect for the 'greatest generation' and the two that preceded it, those people went through a hell current generations can't even imagine: 2 world wars and complete economic collapse between and they came out of it stronger than ever. Truly amazing.



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01 Jan 2018, 12:29 pm

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Your grandfather sounds like my dad. My dad is the king of electronics. When he was a kid, his parents bought a projector and had no idea how to set it up. My dad figured it out on his own and set it up on his own. His parents were mind blown. My dad got training in electronics when he went into the navy. Every job he has had involved computers and electronics. He taught my NT brother how to build computers when he was a kid. My dad loves to beta test computer software.

Forget my 'gramps', your dad sounds like MY kind of person, right down to the beta testing...love finding me some bugs.



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01 Jan 2018, 12:32 pm

He got his ass spanked....but wasn't the pain good after he knew he saved the collective?

People frequently have to get their butt kicked in order to advance themselves, or to effect meaningful change. Or at least risk a butt-kicking.

I wish I was so brave. Maybe I should have taken the spankings instead of seeking to avoid them.

I've been too much of a chicken--but at least I'm getting a pension.



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01 Jan 2018, 5:14 pm

There was a vet who has a shady reputation because he has "zero people skills" and also killed people's pets via negligence and refusing to admit something might have gone wrong. But anyway, my mom always commented on how she thought was in the early stages of Althimizer's. I think he might have had undiagnosed Asperger's.


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01 Jan 2018, 5:26 pm

League_Girl wrote:
note: please read this post first before responding, the title isn't what you think it is.

I used to think my mom had autistic symptoms too because this would explain why she thought I was perfect under eyes, normal, and saw my symptoms as normal and why she didn't see the disorder. If she has traits herself, this would all be normal to her. I also thought other people had the same traits too because they would say they have this problem too and stuff so they think it's normal. Did this not bother anyone else when people would tell you everyone has troubles with it, everyone feels different, everyone has to fake it, etc. because you also thought they had that same difficulty as you?

I had to learn through on here that is not what people actually mean when they say "that happens to everybody" or when they go "me too." I do have to wonder though how do you differentiate between someone having actual autism symptoms or autism like ones and someone just being NT? You can't tell just by looking at someone. I just always assumed it was just as hard for them or else they wouldn't have said it. So if baffles me how can anyone else here not make that same assumption as I did.


In defense of everyone else: it IS a bit hard to follow what you are asking.

You are asking folks with AS disorders:if they wrongly thought other people in their families had ASD's.

I didn't know myself that I had an ASD until I was officially diagnosed a couple of years ago when I was already middle aged. Didn't even suspect until maybe ten years ago. So before that I didn't even think I was autistic myself.

But ever since childhood I was sent to shrinks, and pretty much had it drummed into my head by family ( and separately by school mates) that I was abnormal and everything was wrong with me (though the things supposedly wrong with me were not lumped together under any kind of label, or diagnosis). So even thnking for a moment that anyone else in my family had anything wrong with them was heresy.



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01 Jan 2018, 5:46 pm

League_Girl wrote:
Okay, I guess I am the only member here who thought other peopke had autism traits when they in fact didn't and I was misunderstanding them when they would go "me too" about issues I had.

I guess I am also the only one here who was not bothered when I would hear it happens to everyone or when they would go "me too" because I assumed they had the same struggles as me.


Everyone in this thread obvioulsy only read my title and not my OP. :roll:


It is a natural human trait to want to belong to a group and I suspect you were simply trying to find your group in those closest to you. It is also difficult when first diagnosed (by yourself or others) not to go around Aspie spotting. I'm sure many of us have done this. I certainly did. My wife is a little introverted and I was tempted to place her on the spectrum, but she clearly is not. People can in fact be just introverted and not Autistic. It took me a while to realize that. I suspect many people now think introversion must be autism.



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01 Jan 2018, 6:16 pm

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League_Girl wrote:
note: please read this post first before responding, the title isn't what you think it is.

I used to think my mom had autistic symptoms too because this would explain why she thought I was perfect under eyes, normal, and saw my symptoms as normal and why she didn't see the disorder. If she has traits herself, this would all be normal to her. I also thought other people had the same traits too because they would say they have this problem too and stuff so they think it's normal. Did this not bother anyone else when people would tell you everyone has troubles with it, everyone feels different, everyone has to fake it, etc. because you also thought they had that same difficulty as you?

I had to learn through on here that is not what people actually mean when they say "that happens to everybody" or when they go "me too." I do have to wonder though how do you differentiate between someone having actual autism symptoms or autism like ones and someone just being NT? You can't tell just by looking at someone. I just always assumed it was just as hard for them or else they wouldn't have said it. So if baffles me how can anyone else here not make that same assumption as I did.


In defense of everyone else: it IS a bit hard to follow what you are asking.

You are asking folks with AS disorders:if they wrongly thought other people in their families had ASD's.

I didn't know myself that I had an ASD until I was officially diagnosed a couple of years ago when I was already middle aged. Didn't even suspect until maybe ten years ago. So before that I didn't even think I was autistic myself.

But ever since childhood I was sent to shrinks, and pretty much had it drummed into my head by family ( and separately by school mates) that I was abnormal and everything was wrong with me (though the things supposedly wrong with me were not lumped together under any kind of label, or diagnosis). So even thnking for a moment that anyone else in my family had anything wrong with them was heresy.



I was asking if anyone mistook any family members or others people as being on the spectrum.

I was also asking if anyone here thought if other people had the same struggles as them just because they said they did.


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01 Jan 2018, 6:28 pm

I've never mistook anybody. Nobody remotely has autism in my family.

My mother sometimes states that she understands my struggles--when she really only partially understands.



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01 Jan 2018, 6:32 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I've never mistook anybody. Nobody remotely has autism in my family.

My mother sometimes states that she understands my struggles--when she really only partially understands.

Well a little understanding is better than none at all. From all the posts over the years it sounds like you and your mother have had a fairly rocky relationship.



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01 Jan 2018, 6:34 pm

She got me "out" of my autism--but she's a cold, unsympathetic figure in at least some ways.

She also tries to bully me when she sees an "opening."



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01 Jan 2018, 7:22 pm

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Edna3362 wrote:
Lol, alright. :twisted:


No one in my family thinks they're 'like me' and none of them try to 'sympathize' me for whatever problems I had.
'Me too' -- no one said ever. :lol: And as I said in my previous post, I never suspected any adults. Much less my family.

So I do have a clear grip that no one around me would truly understand what I'm going through or how I deal with things.

The closest I had would be my SPED teacher who still is in touch with me. She fancies the idea that she might be in the spectrum herself -- yet I don't think she is. Not even the slightest.
As far as she told me her stories, she's just an introvert NT with certain exposures in certain types of hardships (that I haven't been) and somewhat a late bloomer in social things before her adulthood from the way I see it -- she thought I'm like that too. :lol:
Yet in reality, she only compares things -- either it's the human thing with the problems and all that can have both NT and ND do have, or superficial stuffs like liking and disliking the same things. :| Were you referring to the former?

Granted. I'm the only aspie she'd ever known.



Have you told your teacher you don't think she is and she is just introverted and a late social bloomer? Does she ever feel it impacts her life?

Nope. Her biggest impact in her life had nothing to do with those things.


I won't spoonfeed her things she'd disregard. She's one of those who follows behaviorism and I won't interfere. If she sought knowledge beyond that, I'll help her out. And as far as I could tell, she's too busy for that, and not ready to be challenged.

I'd just let her have her fun -- she's a professional after all, she'll figure it out someday that autism isn't just about that, and autistic social problems are more complicated than just being that.


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