How do you feel wearing glasses?
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I think it's because 99% of people with ASDs, and people with Down's Syndrome, that I've ever seen (whether it's real life or on TV) wear glasses, like it's a common thing for people with disabilities to wear glasses, and I don't want to fit that stereotype. If I were NT and needed glasses, I probably wouldn't think twice about geek or disability stereotypes, but because I'm on the spectrum I seem to be more sensitive to these silly things.
Getting used to being seen in glasses is a lot like trying a new hairstyle. Everybody gets used to it pretty soon.
I think it's because 99% of people with ASDs, and people with Down's Syndrome, that I've ever seen (whether it's real life or on TV) wear glasses, like it's a common thing for people with disabilities to wear glasses, and I don't want to fit that stereotype. If I were NT and needed glasses, I probably wouldn't think twice about geek or disability stereotypes, but because I'm on the spectrum I seem to be more sensitive to these silly things.
Why don’t you get contact lenses?
I am very lucky now. My glasses, without which I am blind, can now be made with super light-weight material and have a minimal frame and mostly I don't notice them, except to clean them. I can relate to not wanting a hug which crushes or smudges my glasses!
But when I was a child, in 4th grade, no one wore glasses and people did make fun of me. It was NOT cool to wear glasses back then. I wore these terrible blue glasses with rhinestones. Talk about a nerd! I was embarrassed all the time. The glasses were heavy and left dents in my nose and behind my ears and sometimes gave me a headache.
I wore contacts for a while after I got to college, but eventually gave them up as too much trouble.
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Doesn't really bother me. I have to wear them more and more these days, when before it was only when they got tired or I needed near-sight focus. But, I've been wearing sunglasses for a very VERY long time (I can't go outside during daylight hours without them, the light is too bright for me, sometimes I have to wear them when I'm driving at night otherwise I can't see because of the oncoming headlights) so I'm probably used to the feeling.
I think glasses can actually accent a person's face. Like piercings or makeup. Sometimes glasses make us look more visually pleasing. I think mine do for me, for sure.
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I don’t mind wearing glasses, I use to feel a bit self conscious when I first got them at 11 so I never wore them. Now I really need them, I feel like the frames I have now compliment my style.
The only problem I have is that if I wear them for too long I get little acne bumps on my nose or cheeks which sucks, that’s more a disadvantage of combination skin if anything though.
I feel like a damn bug with no peripheral vision. I have a hard time backing out of a parking spot because of the glass frames. I also have a hard time walking down stairs. The problem is that I have a astigmatism and can see normally (or what I call normally - there's a little fuzziness) most of the time but my eyes are straining and so I get headaches. I also cannot exercise with glasses on. Some guy that worked at the eye place said that I have the worst astigmatism that he has ever seen. Gee, thanks. That made me feel better. And I have also heard that because of the astigmatism, I can't wear contacts. I haven't pursued that yet to see if it is true. I also think people treat me a lot different when I wear glasses - and not in a good way.
And you know the saying : guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses. Ain't that the truth.
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Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 153 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical
Darn, I flunked.
And you know the saying : guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses. Ain't that the truth.
I have an astigmatism in my left eye, it’s not too bad but the opticians actually have a special type of contact lense made for people with an astigmatism so you should be fine for contacts. I actually found when I was wearing them that the astigmatism lense was more comfortable than the normal lense on my right eye.
And you know the saying : guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses. Ain't that the truth.
I have an astigmatism in my left eye, it’s not too bad but the opticians actually have a special type of contact lense made for people with an astigmatism so you should be fine for contacts. I actually found when I was wearing them that the astigmatism lense was more comfortable than the normal lense on my right eye.
Hmm. I may have to check that out whenever the time comes where my glasses piss me off enough. I'd like to get that laser surgery, but I'm too much of a weinie.
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Me grumpy?
I'm happiness challenged.
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 83 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 153 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical
Darn, I flunked.
I was told I needed glasses in 2009 but I tried a couple of pairs on and I really really do not suit glasses. I look geeky in a bad way. So I just never bought any. It didn't affect me other than not being able to read the board at school occasionally. Went back to the opticians three years later, still needed glasses (surprise surprise), I tried contacts instead, had a consultation/trial thing, but I couldn't for the life of me get them out of my eye. I didn't want to pinch any harder or apply any more pressure to my eyeball, I felt like I was going to hurt myself (I have a very low pain tolerance and am very squeamish). The optician had to take them out for me.
Then I went back earlier this year and they told me I have 20/20 vision! So much for damaging your eyesight if you don't wear glasses when you need them. ![]()
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And you know the saying : guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses. Ain't that the truth.
It’s probably not too bad then. People tend to exaggerate it. I have it as well and I have to wear special contacts for it. I’m -0.75 in my right eye and -1.50 in the left. One person said my left eye has very bad astigmatism, but I know -1.50 isn’t that bad.
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I am fine with wearing glasses. I remember that when I was a young lad in elementary school I wanted to wear glasses in order to present myself as more nerdy. However, I did not need glasses at that age so when I found out that my vision was normal I was devastated. Looking back at the issue now I cannot help but laugh at myself for having an unnecessary emotional reaction to not needing glasses.
I wanted glasses in school as well. I thought my vision was off. When I got my eyes tested they told me I didn’t need glasses. I was so disappointed I ended up making fun of kids with glasses
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