Aspergers & Getting Older

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I honestly feel that the older I get, the better I am at relating to people.

In my 20's, I really sucked at relating to people. And at most things in general.

I'm 57 now. My memory isn't as sharp as it once was----but my "people skills" have gotten to be pretty good in some instances.

I still do make pretty grievous mistakes at times, though.

despite decades of forced effort, I haven't been able to learn how to be normal with people.

Aunt Blabby, one of you makes up for a thousand well-poisoners.

For me it I have become more tolerant of myself and I don't play the pity card (poor me, I'm discriminated against because of my autism)

I'm 71 and NLD.

I'm isolating because interaction with other people is......well, I'm finally concluding that it's just not worth the trouble and annoyance. A few friends, wife, family......that's it. Get togethers are rare.

As far as mental capacity goes........the things you found difficult at 50 are clearly more difficult at 70. You're the same person, just older and your brain is declining.

But I do believe I will hold together and be able to function at a fairly normal level for the few years that I have left. I don't see any huge decline........just normal decline.

I've been retired for 11 years and they've been my BEST years by far. I never should have been required to hold down a job........really lacked the ability to do it, but was forced to fake it.

So things are really good for me now, but expect to decline as you age. Things that were difficult before will become a bit more difficult.

There's obviously individual variation. My body is not as strong as it was (it was never strong), though my mind is as sharp, my memory as good, and my social ability still not the greatest though better than in earlier decades, experience has somewhat improved the latter. We may be all on the same spectrum, but individual differences are important.

I was soooo different when I was younger, in my teens, I didn’t have a sensory problem, I didn’t have anxiety or panic attacks, I was almost normal,but a quiet teenager, I didn’t make friends, I stayed at home more, I was happier staying at home with my mom, my cat & my dog. I found out about my Asperger in my 20s, I got my first panic attack in 2007. I’m 47, my Asperger makes me mental very young, but my body feels older than I am, my body is not strong anymore. I been wanting to go to my bank for weeks now, I keep getting pain.