Am I the only Aspie who likes being touched?

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I also like to be touched and hugged. My friends call me Sid because of it. :O)

As a child, I crave physical contact. Practically a sensory seeker, to the point I'd bother my parents for that or strangers if I weren't gone shy.

Until the time I became intolerant. Other than whatever caused me anxiety before puberty, then I don't know the other reasons for the sudden shift of preference and sudden need of avoidance.


At this present, I could care less of what is expected, given, asked, or not. I don't particularly crave nor avoid physical contact.
I only initiate towards to and like the physical contact by my mom, but not really towards anyone else.

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I have always been a huggy person. Kisses, too. The thing is I heard autistics don't like light touches, but prefer touches with deep pressure. I think that's true for me. Deep pressure (preferably from a fat person) is enjoyable. I also like to be lifted up into the air. I'd go to family members and ask "up". My parents did it until I got big, then my brother did it, then my husband, now my sons can lift me but I don't ask them very much. I think I might be one of the most lifted person in the world who isn't a dancer.

I'll admit though I do hugs purely for physical pleasure. They don't do anything for me emotionally.

Hugs from a friend are a source of comfort to me. I don't like being touched if I think someone is trying to patronize me.

I can't endure soft/gentle touch but I love tight hugs and high pressure massage.

I'm indifferent to being touched by men, and can't get enough of it from tactile women; I definitely buck the stereotype here, too.

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I like to be touched and hugged when it is genuinely out of caring and connecting. If it is out of asserting power over me, I freeze or back away. As much as I want it, I find that people avoid hugging me. Like saying goodbye in a group, they all hug each other and then wave to me. I'm not sure what I do that makes people think they can't hug me.

I like being touched but I hate being restricted or having contact with dirt/smell.

I like all kinds of massages, getting haircut and being hugged when I am cold or when I am falling asleep etc. Especially from children and women, since they tend to be delicate and not as intimidating. Or from slim guys, for the same reason.

I especially love when someone plays with my hair, even if it hurts a little bit. There was a guy that I hated - he was always bulling me and talking weird things about me. But he had a habit of tousling my hair every time he saw me and while he was doing so I was in heaven. I hated it because it was him and because I had to fix my hair afterwards - but it felt soooo good physically I was totally relaxed during the second or two the touch lasted.

But I hate being hugged by people much bigger or stronger than me, especially when I didn't initiate the physical contact or I can't break free. I need to be in control. I also hate it when the person hugging me has a bad smell or is wet/dirty. And I hate guys with scratchy faces and those wearing uncomfortable clothes.

There is nothing worse than being hugged tightly by some strong, smelly guy with a phone or wallet in the front pocket of their who-knows-when cleaned jacket, pressing painfully against my chest while I am not strong enough to push him away and the guy doesn't listen to my "I don't want you to hug me! Stop it!... Let me go! I said let me go!".

I like being touched as long as it's not a light touch, or people touch me from behind. When I was a kid I didn't like being touched, but I think it changed around the teenage years or something.

If people touch me from behind, it makes me jump. I hate not being able to see who is touching me.

Sometimes at events like fairs and carnivals, I'll get my face painted only to enjoy the goosebumps during the process. I've also always enjoyed going to doctors and dentists for that same purpose. The feeling is intensified 100x if the person operating is an attractive woman, though I wouldn't consider goosebumps to be sexual. I found out in 2013 that the feeling is called ASMR and there's a popular youtube community for it.

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No, I don't mind being touched----but, as others have said, I don't like light touches (it makes me wanna SMACK the person)! ! LOL My aunt used to always holler at my sister, for that..... She used to touch my aunt's arm, really lightly, to get her attention, so she could tell her something, and my aunt (undiagnosed Aspie) used to go through the roof!! LOL I think my sister did it that way cuz she thought if she was rough, it would make her holler----poor kid, didn't have a chance!! LOL

I love hugs----a kid I work with, worked his last day with us, the other day, and I thought he was gonna hug me t'death (good, tight hug - I was like a mother-type, to him, I think)----and, I don't mind if someone touches my arm, when they say "you know what I mean", or something like that.

I don't mind kisses on the cheek, either----but, if someone would try to kiss me in the mouth (other than a love-interest), I might be the last person they kiss!! LOL And, God HELP ME if I see an adult kiss a baby/child in the mouth----kids pick-up germs from all over, as-it-is; but, maybe I need to save that for another thread!! LOL

You're not alone. I like physical contact of many kinds so long as it is consensual. Having someone wash my hair is heavenly. getting my feet rubbed is sensational. Hugs and kisses on the cheek are great when genuinely given. There do exist situations when it is uncomfortable or unwanted. I try to dodge those.