I hate most men

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It's a minority, but there are enough to make it aggravating.

I think a lot of men just bend to what they see as societal pressures of not showing much emotion and learn early on how to keep all that locked away inside.

I find the differences in mentality and personality between men and women quite fascinating.

Question for ladies - do you think women have a natural urge to 'let off steam on a regular basis?'. I have always felt that men have that inside them and can often channel it into sport, either playing or passionately following, but is also maybe the reason men go so crazy on beer, wild nights, fighting etc. I am speculating here so could have it all wrong but I have just always felt this is something natural to men.

^Yeah, it's called testosterone! It's what drives a lot of men.

I used to work in a department as the only woman among ten men. For the most part I got along with them and even had some deep conversations with them. They can gossip too!

Now I'm at Tafe and I get along very well with my male teacher. I don't know why, but I've mostly found men easy to talk to.

It sounds like the way I am with a lot of women! It's probably because men are likely to be competitive with other men, while women are likely to be competitive with other women. Everyone needs to let go of this idea life is a competition, but sadly that's the way mainstream culture has raised us.

Oh yeah, I've had the same experiences.
But you will also find bad women that dominate, bully, manipulate, backstab.

It's just about finding the few decent people that populate the world.

I tend to get along with both genders (when I get along with people at all), but for years before I was diagnosed I tended to get along better with men and be more relaxed and comfortable around them. But when other people mentioned this I would get uncomfortable. But since my diagnosis I think I understand why, now. Most of the men I knew were friendlier, more easygoing, and easier to please. A lot of women I knew were more likely to overreact or judge me by my behavior, and they were too high-strung and difficult to please. Guys tended to be more "fun". I could usually talk to them more about cartoons and video games. I knew some women who were obsessed with soap operas and once when I poked fun at them for acting as if the actors on the shows were real live people, one of them angrily said, "You're the same with cartoons, only worse!"

Do you like martial arts? If you learn to defend yourself perhaps the puffery won't be as repulsive. You could get some confidence and be the badass that knows he could kicks anyone's ass. If not that's cools too but I think it would help with confidence. That's all they constantly try to do is assert dominance, just like apes. But if you know you can handle yourself you will naturally be able to play the game and not let these s**theads intimidate you.

Stop hanging around insecure douchebags without the faintest clue what it means to be masculine. I've done martial arts, and I do IPSC now. Lots of testosterone to go around, several guys with military or police/security careers and the like. Y'know what's really rare in these environments? Insecure dick-flailing, belligerence, misogyny and BS. Y'know what there's plenty of? Humility, consideration, honesty, helpfulness and humour.

Any environment that contains humans will have its idiots, but the problem with the sort of guys you describe has little to do with being men.

I'm curious OP, did you grow up with a father in your household? It would make sense that you're less comfortable around men if you didn't ever successfully bond with one, whether that be through family or friendships.

Most of my (admittedly few) friends are guys, though they're not into sports or anything like that. They tend to be more into politics and music like me. I find that guys tend to appreciate my sense of humour more, and probably overall the topics I choose to talk about, but then the amount of women I've gotten close to aside from family is very very few.

I'm not sure if martial arts is something I could do but I'll look into it.