Is inablity to make decisions a part of Asperger?

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02 Apr 2018, 12:50 pm

Someone it appears that one decision is better than the other

Appearances are often deceiving

For example, twelve years ago I made the stupid mistake of trusting someone. He appeared so honest, kind and all that psychobabble

He ended up homophobic

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So yes I am indecisive

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02 Apr 2018, 1:00 pm

You should have "I can't decide" as an option in your poll :lol:

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02 Apr 2018, 3:07 pm

teksla wrote:

You should have "I can't decide" as an option in your poll :lol:

I would have pressed it because I hesitated for about ten minutes between very difficult and kinda difficult.

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02 Apr 2018, 10:12 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:

I tend to over-think decisions, which is hard work. If I want to buy something, I often get stalled by a plethora of choices. It's better when I notice what's happening, question how critical the choice really is, and consider just taking a chance. I have more trouble when all the options are horrible, such as whether to risk cancer or get an invasive test for it. But as a perfectionist, even good options can look horrible because they're not perfect. Many real-life decisions have to be taken without enough relevent information, and I hate that. But I also hate the drudgery, frustration and time-wasting of amassing and weighing up all the data. It's nice when I notice a line of reasoning that simplifies the choice.

ToughDiamond, I am the same.

Ichinin, my inability to make decisions is the reason behind my "apparently inflexible adherence to specific, nonfunctional routines or rituals." Once I make a decision, I will choose the exact same thing so that I do not need to go through the long and painful process of making another decision.

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03 Apr 2018, 6:13 am

^
Just to add to the complexity, I've also been known to make decisions impulsively, with bad consequenses. It's as if my brain rebels against the slowness of the "proper" way and tries to correct things. Possibly also something to do with external pressure for an early result, which seems to be a feature of modern life. I failed my first driving test that way - after waiting a while, I pulled out at a busy junction and the examiner had to use the dual controls to stop us from causing an accident. Wouldn't have happened if I'd not been afraid of failing due to "not making adequate progress" as it's called.

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03 Apr 2018, 6:23 am

Yes , Um No , Um I don't know , sorry

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03 Apr 2018, 6:51 am

Yeah, indecision is a clear issue in my life, due to going too deep into the options and feeling simultaneously overwhelmed.

My wife once took issue with my taking 5 minutes to choose a drink from the fridge at the service station. I was befuddled when the exact brand she had asked for wasn't in stock.

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03 Apr 2018, 6:58 am

TimS1980 wrote:

Yeah, indecision is a clear issue in my life, due to going too deep into the options and feeling simultaneously overwhelmed.
My wife once took issue with my taking 5 minutes to choose a drink from the fridge at the service station. I was befuddled when the exact brand she had asked for wasn't in stock.

As a young child I used to drive my dad insane when I was choosing fireworks to buy. Back then I was oblivious to the time constraints. I wonder whether the overwhelmed feeling would be there at all if we still felt there was all the time in the world?

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03 Apr 2018, 4:54 pm

There are times that I have a hard time making up my mind. Either that, or I keep changing my mind back and forth.

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05 Apr 2018, 5:34 pm

It depends entirely on what it is I am supposed to decide. Some decisions are so obvious to me that i don't even need to consider them, others can leave me undecided for a very long time and even lead to avoidance.

It's not uncommon that it is the smallest decisions that take the longest time and are hardest for me. Things like what book to read next, should I watch this or that, eat this or that for dinner etc.

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05 Apr 2018, 7:29 pm

It's say it's probably loosely related, largely because we tend to over analyze things a lot. Over-analysis can certainly result in difficulty making decisions.

As Skilpadde suggests, if the analysis is obvious, the decision can be made easily.

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06 Apr 2018, 5:07 am

Am I, a diagnosed aspie, indecisive?

I dunno. Not sure whether you could describe me as being that way, or not.

Is the inability to make a decision an aspie trait?

I dunno. Could be.

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