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11 May 2018, 2:12 am

My AS mother was a pro photographer, and tested her gear on me. I learned to ignore lenses, while looking photogenic, which has gotten me onto the front page of two newspapers. I think it is rude if someone takes my picture without asking, but it happens with cameras everywhere now. Taking selfies is a chore, not a pleasure.

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11 May 2018, 7:10 am

I haven’t had a picture taken of me since I was in high school 19 years ago. I politely decline when asked.

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11 May 2018, 9:03 am

I think the only really nice picture ever taken of me was my senior portrait. I actually looked nice and normal in it.

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11 May 2018, 1:10 pm

I'm a little bit vain. I want my photo to be taken by as many people as possible and I want it to appear in as many publications as possible.

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11 May 2018, 6:21 pm

While I don't have any issues with having my photo taken. Or at least I thought I didn't, I know I don't like having lots of photos taken of me or how long it takes to do so.

When lots of photos are taken or it takes awhile to take them I start getting uncomfortable.

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11 May 2018, 8:53 pm

yes i do not like getting photographed. since i was young, did not.

do not like looking in the mirror.

uncomfortable.

uncomfortable with eye contact

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11 May 2018, 10:45 pm

I don't like it. Especially when flash is used.

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16 May 2018, 7:58 am

SteveSnow wrote:

Having my photo taken is at least as uncomfortable as looking someone in the eye for me. There is no specific reason I just feel extremely uncomfortable and cant' stand seeing myself. It probably doesn't help I have prosopagnosia so it's strange to see a face I know is mine but can't recognize it.

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SteveSnow wrote:

It probably doesn't help I have prosopagnosia so it's strange to see a face I know is mine but can't recognize it.

Wow! I didn't know prosopagnosia could make your own face unrecognizable.

me neither!! that is so interesting. thank you for sharing that. does that mean it's really jarring to look in a mirror or see your reflection in other surfaces?

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16 May 2018, 8:01 am

1986 wrote:

I used to intensely dislike it, but I found a solution.

Basically, my wife and I decided, from the day we moved together, to take a daily photo of us two together. Not for an SNS or anything, just for our personal memories. We sometimes do it on trips or journeys, but mostly it's just a timer at home in the apartment. At first I was very self-conscious about everything ... how we/I looked, what I felt at the time, etc., but after we took a round of bad shots for a week or two but still continued because, well, we promised, I started to be less self-conscious and, after some 400 shots, I began to enjoy the thing. I guess this is how movie stars get that Hollywood smile -- they just have to do it ten-thousand times.

Having done this for nearly 2 years now, I don't have a problem with photos being taken of me. I just look into that lens, smile, and move on to the next thing.

I wonder if there's a similar fix for eye contact ...

thank you for sharing! that sounds like a good fix to this issue. do you not feel insecure about how you look in photos? or do you think you look better?

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16 May 2018, 8:05 am

Aristophanes wrote:

I haven’t had a picture taken of me since I was in high school 19 years ago. I politely decline when asked.

same here. i hate when some people don't take no for an answer and try to get a photo anyways...

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16 May 2018, 8:46 am

It was almost impossible to get me to take photos when I was a child. I would either go hide or start crying whenever my family got together for pictures.

These days I normally consent since I don't want to appear weird but I really don't like it. I feel like I'm never quite sure what I'm supposed to do with my face or my body in pictures. It doesn't bother me so much if I look ugly but I do get bothered by the fact that I always look so awkward and out of place.

The absolute worst is when groups want to take a picture with funny poses. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do in that situation so I normally just end up with some oddly blank face in the final picture while everyone around me is having fun.

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16 May 2018, 9:27 am

I absolutely hate it, as a child my family had to force me and if they havent given up to take a photograpy ill putt my hands to cover my eyes or look to the ground.

Ive meet a guy in a game some months ago, to i explained that im diagnosed with aspergers. This guy constantly would push me to take selfies and i did explain i do not like it. Here comes the boomer! That dude was from NY, yes and what he said was: you do not apreciate my culture it wont work out with us. I wasnt sure what exactly should make me feel more angry that someone consider this culture or just dumps me for being honest and myself. The fun part that dude will come around another time, asking for nudes to validy if a relationship is possible, i was like ya know i hope youll find your instagram "doll" or use tinder. This society turned for worse "viva la solitude".

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16 May 2018, 10:59 am

Fay wrote:

I used to stick my tongue out or use obscene hand gestures to ruin the photo.

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16 May 2018, 6:12 pm

" in the report they wrote about me, they mentioned that my aversion to having my photo taken was abnormal and indicated that i was on the spectrum."

The neuropsychiatrist that diagnosed me did not say anything about cameras. Nor did I mention it

Furthermore I do not like the way I look. Visually

Not all NTs love getting photographed

Appearances seem superficial and materialistic

Overrated and misleading

Meaningless

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16 May 2018, 11:30 pm

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thank you for sharing! that sounds like a good fix to this issue. do you not feel insecure about how you look in photos? or do you think you look better?

I gained a more balanced understanding of my looks, especially how I appear in photos. I do think I look better to some extent, since looking straight into the camera and smiling "naturally" really helps, but I don't think "wow, I look great", just a simple feeling of "that's me".

This in contrast to before, when I would cringe at the mere look of a late childhood photo. To reconcile with such past feelings, I sometimes look at them as an adult (I'm 31) and try to think that even though I look like a complete idiot in many photos, I was happy with who I was back then and the memory of such happiness is what matters.

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18 May 2018, 10:21 pm

in high school photography class, one girl (presumably NT) did not want her photo taken.

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