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19 May 2018, 8:57 am

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There’s a reason I haven’t made too many. I’m not sure what I could specialize in. I’m severely disabled and rely on SSI, Medicaid, and Food Stamps. Even the things I’m good at I can’t do much of because of the nature of my impairments.


Then I have one last bit of advice. Compare yourself to others. Doing so was painful for me, and hard, but it was how I learned that I was not alone.

If I learn more I will let you know.



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19 May 2018, 10:14 am

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(this post was edited. Come on give me a break. I don't always say the right thing on the first try ok?)

Fandom is right. I am trying to be encouraging, and to give advice. May I?

livingwithautism wrote:
...better...



That's...complicated, and a subject for another thread. Suffice to say for now my brain is a rat nest and that word conjurers all kinds of contradictory feelings.


Sure


Specialize. I have been learning to specialize in day trading, so I can pay others to do the things I am bad at, which is important, as there are many things I am bad at.

I don't know you well enough to say what you could specialize in, assuming you decide to take this advice, only that I find day trading much to be much easier than making youtube vidoes :D


There’s a reason I haven’t made too many. I’m not sure what I could specialize in. I’m severely disabled and rely on SSI, Medicaid, and Food Stamps. Even the things I’m good at I can’t do much of because of the nature of my impairments.


Would you be able to write blogs?


Possibly but the better question is: would I want to?



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19 May 2018, 10:16 am

Arevelion wrote:
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There’s a reason I haven’t made too many. I’m not sure what I could specialize in. I’m severely disabled and rely on SSI, Medicaid, and Food Stamps. Even the things I’m good at I can’t do much of because of the nature of my impairments.


Then I have one last bit of advice. Compare yourself to others. Doing so was painful for me, and hard, but it was how I learned that I was not alone.

If I learn more I will let you know.


I don't feel alone and I hate being compared to others.



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19 May 2018, 10:37 am

i'd say I need assistance with socialization. i'm good with everything else.



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19 May 2018, 4:45 pm

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There’s a reason I haven’t made too many. I’m not sure what I could specialize in. I’m severely disabled and rely on SSI, Medicaid, and Food Stamps. Even the things I’m good at I can’t do much of because of the nature of my impairments.


Then I have one last bit of advice. Compare yourself to others. Doing so was painful for me, and hard, but it was how I learned that I was not alone.

If I learn more I will let you know.


I don't feel alone and I hate being compared to others.


Glad you don't feel alone. I hate being compared to others too, but it sure helped me a lot.



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19 May 2018, 7:09 pm

Arevelion wrote:
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There’s a reason I haven’t made too many. I’m not sure what I could specialize in. I’m severely disabled and rely on SSI, Medicaid, and Food Stamps. Even the things I’m good at I can’t do much of because of the nature of my impairments.


Then I have one last bit of advice. Compare yourself to others. Doing so was painful for me, and hard, but it was how I learned that I was not alone.

If I learn more I will let you know.


I don't feel alone and I hate being compared to others.


Glad you don't feel alone. I hate being compared to others too, but it sure helped me a lot.


I don't really see the point in doing it.



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19 May 2018, 8:05 pm

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I don't really see the point in doing it.


Yet you have described yourself doing so in this very thread. You noted you have only 2 subscribers of your videos, and that some of the other videos on youtube were of poor quality. You would have to have compared your channel to others for that two to have meaning, and to know if videos are good or not you have to compare them, and therefore by extension the people who made them, to eachother.

(sighs) I am not trying to bust your chops here. I'm just making a suggestion, if you can somehow navigate life without benchmarks then more power to you. You would certainly be the first though.



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19 May 2018, 8:17 pm

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I don't really see the point in doing it.


Yet you have described yourself doing so in this very thread. You noted you have only 2 subscribers of your videos, and that some of the other videos on youtube were of poor quality. You would have to have compared your channel to others for that two to have meaning, and to know if videos are good or not you have to compare them, and therefore by extension the people who made them, to eachother.

(sighs) I am not trying to bust your chops here. I'm just making a suggestion, if you can somehow navigate life without benchmarks then more power to you. You would certainly be the first though.


1. I set my own benchmarks
2. Comparing YouTube channels/videos is not the same as comparing myself to another actual person.



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20 May 2018, 4:21 am

I live in a foreign country.
I'm able to travel alone.
I'm able to take care of my cat.
I live with my boyfriend. I'm able to pay my rent and my bills and do paperwork with the help of my boyfriend. Alone I have trouble keeping track of things so I forget to do these things.
I can't work in a company but I have a job right now which lets me work from home.
I have trouble with self care.
I'm not good at managing money and am still financially dependent.



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20 May 2018, 5:23 am

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I can do about everything without assistance. Drive, getting a job (I start my first day Saturday) etc etc.. I do lack common sense though sometimes and that can cause some minor social issues. Only "assistance" I guess would be I need people to be very direct with me. Curious to hear if others have that issue too?


Yes. I would say that my other difficulty is getting into conflict with people. I attract the "malignant" ones and that usually results in losing a lot of opportunities because I try to fight back. I think it's because they perceive me as weak when I don't make eye contact.

And though I am not going to discredit my intelligence or anything I am fairly slow to pick up verbal instruction. I need to ask someone repeatedly to make sure I'm doing something correctly and that usually results in irritation on their end.



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20 May 2018, 8:37 am

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What can you do independently (with no assistance) and what do you need direct assistance with?

Okay so being honest here, I can't find anything I can do independently on because I know for sure later on I will ask for help by someone that knows that I have autism and understands me (Mostly my Mom). Maybe I can do a few things independently like clean my room or go on the computer, but that is only the simple things. Hopefully in the future though I will slowly make my way up to being more and more independent because that is one of my goals in life.


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20 May 2018, 9:31 am

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What can you do independently (with no assistance) and what do you need direct assistance with?

Okay so being honest here, I can't find anything I can do independently on because I know for sure later on I will ask for help by someone that knows that I have autism and understands me (Mostly my Mom). Maybe I can do a few things independently like clean my room or go on the computer, but that is only the simple things. Hopefully in the future though I will slowly make my way up to being more and more independent because that is one of my goals in life.


I would like a bit more independence so I could go bowling and swimming everyday by myself.



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20 May 2018, 10:02 am

livingwithautism wrote:
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What can you do independently (with no assistance) and what do you need direct assistance with?

Okay so being honest here, I can't find anything I can do independently on because I know for sure later on I will ask for help by someone that knows that I have autism and understands me (Mostly my Mom). Maybe I can do a few things independently like clean my room or go on the computer, but that is only the simple things. Hopefully in the future though I will slowly make my way up to being more and more independent because that is one of my goals in life.


I would like a bit more independence so I could go bowling and swimming everyday by myself.

Yeah, I understand that. It's hard to break the wall between dependence and independence in my opinion. I just can't see how people do it so easily though....Ya know what I mean?


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20 May 2018, 11:34 am

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I don't really see the point in doing it.


Yet you have described yourself doing so in this very thread. You noted you have only 2 subscribers of your videos, and that some of the other videos on youtube were of poor quality. You would have to have compared your channel to others for that two to have meaning, and to know if videos are good or not you have to compare them, and therefore by extension the people who made them, to eachother.

(sighs) I am not trying to bust your chops here. I'm just making a suggestion, if you can somehow navigate life without benchmarks then more power to you. You would certainly be the first though.


1. I set my own benchmarks
2. Comparing YouTube channels/videos is not the same as comparing myself to another actual person.


$100

That's how much I am willing to bet that I can find you 100 subscribers in one month even though I have no experience making youtube videos and even though I have severe, Very Severe, Social deficits.

Don't worry.

You won't owe me $100 if I win. I will just owe you $100 if I loose.

But if I win you will owe me something else. You have to start a thread on this forum, saying that Non-verbal learning disability is an autism spectrum disorder, and you would have to say that even if you think it's a lie.

What say you?



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20 May 2018, 11:44 am

skiddlebugz wrote:
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livingwithautism wrote:
What can you do independently (with no assistance) and what do you need direct assistance with?

Okay so being honest here, I can't find anything I can do independently on because I know for sure later on I will ask for help by someone that knows that I have autism and understands me (Mostly my Mom). Maybe I can do a few things independently like clean my room or go on the computer, but that is only the simple things. Hopefully in the future though I will slowly make my way up to being more and more independent because that is one of my goals in life.


I would like a bit more independence so I could go bowling and swimming everyday by myself.

Yeah, I understand that. It's hard to break the wall between dependence and independence in my opinion. I just can't see how people do it so easily though....Ya know what I mean?


Yes, but I think it looks easier than it really is.



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20 May 2018, 11:46 am

Arevelion wrote:
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I don't really see the point in doing it.


Yet you have described yourself doing so in this very thread. You noted you have only 2 subscribers of your videos, and that some of the other videos on youtube were of poor quality. You would have to have compared your channel to others for that two to have meaning, and to know if videos are good or not you have to compare them, and therefore by extension the people who made them, to eachother.

(sighs) I am not trying to bust your chops here. I'm just making a suggestion, if you can somehow navigate life without benchmarks then more power to you. You would certainly be the first though.


1. I set my own benchmarks
2. Comparing YouTube channels/videos is not the same as comparing myself to another actual person.


$100

That's how much I am willing to bet that I can find you 100 subscribers in one month even though I have no experience making youtube videos and even though I have severe, Very Severe, Social deficits.

Don't worry.

You won't owe me $100 if I win. I will just owe you $100 if I loose.

But if I win you will owe me something else. You have to start a thread on this forum, saying that Non-verbal learning disability is an autism spectrum disorder, and you would have to say that even if you think it's a lie.

What say you?


You’re on.