Who here hate’s lateness

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Public transport lateness, specifically after a long day at work where it delays the time i get home, gets to me so much I am put in a bad mood for the rest of the evening. Like literally blood boiling kinda mood. I don't know why it affects me so much, nor do i want it to affect me so much. But it does.

When i was a kid, my mum was late with everything! We were constantly running down the road to get me to school on time in the mornings. Always late, everywhere we went! It annoyed me so much! So now i tend to do everything i can to not be late anywhere. I just hate the feeling, like i've failed not just myself, but other people relying on me to be somewhere at a specific time.

My therapist has requested that when i turn up for session I can be no earlier than 5 minutes prior to the appointment. It makes me panic like mad, this tiny little 5 min window to ensure i'm not too early and not late.

One thing I find frustrating with buses and bus drivers are the ones who drive off whilst I am still getting to my seat. I have bad balancing issues and it feels as if the driver has no consideration for his passengers

I agree with all that have expressed anger about other people being habitually late , I find it disrespectful and infuriating . In fact , it is the exact opposite of what I need on a daily basis . It creates a lot of doubt and uncertainty which raises my anxiety level needlessly . It's also saying that my time is not as valuable as theirs . I find it selfish and narcissistic to constantly be late . My Covert Malignant Narcissist ex was the type of person that would leave for an appointment at the time she was supposed to be there , making her late every time . To offset her lateness , she set her clocks 15-20 minutes fast so that when she left for a 10:00 appointment , she had 20 minutes to get there . The problem with this is that whenever I went to pick up the children , she accused ME of being 20 minutes late despite the fact that I was on time but her clocks were set ahead .

Lateness makes me very anxious. If I arrange something and they aren’t on time my anxiety gets pretty bad. I’ve had panic attacks when it doesn’t go as planned and can ruin my day completely.