Where do you get your support?

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Well now, my boyfriend...sometimes I feel bad for how much he puts into the relationship, like I can't help feeling like he deserves someone better at times. But I mean he really cares about me...so I know he would be devestated if I broke up with him. I mean I am on disability and he is working of course I help pay bills with my SSI money, but I mean realistically he is putting more in....he also did get a raise at his job which is nice. I mean I suppose somewhat in return I have grown an interest in his hobby of painting warhammer minatures...and we actually joined a gaming group to play a warhammer game called Necromunda I think it is. But yeah I have been putting together minatures and painting them...I mean it just seemed really cool when I learned it was a hobby of his so its not like I had to force myself to be interested.

Aside from that my siblings have been supportive in various ways, though I wish I could be more supportive to my youngest brother, he is into acting....but I have PTSD issues with being in a school and a lot of his plays and things are at his school. And I just don't want my anxiety to ruin it....so I haven't really gone to see him.

My parents had tried to be supportive, but they were so caught up in their own divorce and angry feelings at each other, they just didn't even seem to realize maybe there was something actually different about me...I mean they were so caught up in that the didn't see the pattern of me getting constantly bullied from place to place we moved, or how badly I was coping with it. At least not until later, but my dad doesn't really see it...because I think he is different to, he might have Aspergers to.

Me & my girlfriend both feel like the other deserves better than us. Part of it is that my girlfriend has depression issues & takes things out on me when she's in a bad mood. I feel guilty for not taking care of her enough & feel like I should be doing a much better job than what I am. & she feels guilty for treating me badly & for how bad I feel.

I did mention that I lived with my parents till I moved in with my girlfriend at 30. My parents did support me as in letting me live there rent free a lot of the time(except or a couple years I was working) & cooking for me & taking me places I needed to go. But they were NOT much support otherwise. they never understood my disabilities, issues, & quirks & have been very critical of me since I was little. My mom suspected me of being on the spectrum since I was a toddler but our GP just laughed & said "Nick's just being Nick". I was diagnosed with dyslexia & AD(H)D when I started kindergarten & my dad probably has those issues too but he never received help for them. My parents also figured I had a low vision disorder since I was little too but that didn't get diagnosed till my senior year of high-skewl cuz it's so rare, the eye docs thought I was just being difficult cuz I didn't want to wear glasses. Despite knowing these things my parents did NOT understand em & how they would affect me all together. They resented me for being so dependent.

Nowhere.

My kids keep me going, but not from support (they're too young), just the knowledge that they need me.

But it keeps getting harder as my life gets more chaotic.

Depends on the type of support. If it's financial support, that I get from my parents. If it's emotional support, the source of the support varies - it can be either my parents or who I consider to be my two closest friends, the latter especially if it's something I don't dare disclose to the former.

Mainly I get my support from my faith in God, from my mom, cats, church family, advanced registered nurse practitioner (ARNP, like a psychiatrist) and the government.

I live alone and participate in a community support program for people with spmi. I go to a community soup kitchen and know some people there or talk to strangers. I talk on the phone to my family. I think I am starting to have a friend wee talk on the phone and sometimes do things together. There is a social support group for aspergers that happens once a month and I went one time it was difficult I hope to work on going back. I would also like to re-connect with a buddhist community in my neighborhood. I have been in some kind of therapy for the last maybe six years. I find wrong planet supportive in a computer way although facetime is much better.

My therapist, my shrink, my family, my friend.

(attempts to rest a hand on your shoulder)

Sympathy via physical contact.