Introvert? Extrovert? Ambivert?

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I'm extroverted. My family think I talk their ears off but I think they're just too quiet. I have rather high need for socialization. It doesn't mean I'm any good of course. It feels like a little kid who would love to participate in sports but isn't good at any of them so nobody want him. If I stayed home for more than two days I'll get all restless and must go out. It's very hard to relax. The more stressed I am the more I need to talk to people. Sometimes I even talk to my in-laws to vent my frustrations. Not ideal I know, but I was desperate and they pretend to listen. I really think it might be easier if I'm introverted like the rest of my family are.

I used to think I was an introvert but, as my social circle has grown and opportunities have increased, I find myself much more extroverted. I would say I am probably in the middle between two extremes.

I can be quite talkative and expressive when I want to be, perhaps to the point where you might perceive me to be on the extroverted side of things. However, I do get tired in social situations quite easily. I'm weary of my limits, so whilst I might go to a party...chances are I won't go to any additional events afterwards (such as an after-party).

To apply this to another situation, I'm a part of an extracurricular comedy club at University. Almost every session we have is followed by an opportunity to go to the pub afterwards to have a chat. I never go to it, because I've already spent enough time with everyone, and I know that if I spend even more time then chances are I'll become exhausted and grouchy. Now, I don't like that side of me, that's when I become bored, irritable, and sometimes cruelly apathetic.

So, I manage this by making sure that I have enough alone time to rest up and process. I think that most people are somewhere in-between rather than at either extreme, and personally whilst I have traits of both I tend to lean more towards being introverted. My parents certainly think so, and my teachers would also remark on that. People would tell me that I should find a job that involves either computers, animals, or science and to basically avoid working with humans as much as possible.

Whilst I'm a little, well, offended isn't quite the word, I can understand their point. I'm not exactly a people person per say, more of a I enjoy socialising in doses, but I think I might understand cats and my other interests more than the subtleties found in human conversation, yet at the same time I spend a good portion of my life researching into these intricacies because I want to be a better writer type of person.

I'm borderline between introvert and ambivert, basically.

Definitely introvert here. Very shy, but can open up somewhat once I get to know someone. But that is a rare occasion!

With the exception of my boyfriend, I am not just an introvert, I am a misanthrope.