How not to end up homeless?

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Are you sure you can't work at all? Looks like you can think logically, write, probably other stuffs .

I hope you come back more optimistic in the next days. Fright is your best enemy.

This reminds me this: Before finding a job, I was going to a psychologist, I was telling her about my fear of not finding a job and ending on the street, which was a pessimistic but possible end. She answered me "Well, even if you end up homeless, it is nice, you find a nice bridge, you drink a beer and do nothing, you are free, etc." … I decided to stop going to pay for the stupid advices and concentrated on finding a job.

I had a friend who was probably an Aspie. He and his sister lived with his parents. But his father passed away when he was still in college. He and his sister remained at home. Eventually his mother died. The parents must have willed their house to their children. So they remained in the house. He had small jobs like delivering pizza or Chinese food and cutting the grass in yards. It gave him some pocket money and they managed for several decades after their parents were gone.

So that is one way that you might avoid becoming homeless. So it is good to find a job even if it is part time and doesn't pay much. And it is good to stay on the good side of your parents.

Become a Mason. or join some other fraternal order.

I put my faith in the generosity of Waheguru, but only because it worked in the past.

There is a fine art to torture, if you experience to much pain you become numb to it. It like with burns, If it's 3rd degree you've killed the pain receptors don't feel anything.

Life is a bowl of Skittles and M&Ms, if you just reach in a take a handful of whatever is given to you you will have an unpleasant experience but if you put in the work to separate them you find that you aren't being given 1 nasty thing but 2 really good things and it was only the context that was making them appear bad.

I use to believe I was in hell, life was just barely giving me enough hope that I couldn't kill myself and end my suffering.

I now view my life as The Swamp of Sadness, if you let the sadness over take you you sink into the swamp. But if you keep your cool and don't get discouraged by Sturgeon's law, it's pretty easy to dredge your way through it.


I tried to fit in and failed at it. Now I try to be a hero.

As Philip Zimbardo said, "To be a hero, you have to learn to be a deviant, because you're always going against the conformity of the group. Heroes are ordinary people whose social actions are extraordinary. "

Not only do I wait for an opportunity to stop evil but I wait for opportunities to do Seva, a service which is performed without any expectation of result, such as awards or punishments for performing it.

Nelson Mandela said, "I'm not a saint, unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying."

Now I don't know if you have to be a saint like me to get gifts of Filet Mignon but I do know that Waheguru lets you build up an appellate and then gives you a bowl of Skittles and M&Ms and if you aren't careful you won't notice and take a big old handful and pop it into your mouth.


Now back to your question. When you are born all you have to do is cry and people satisfy your needs and when NTwits(Not to say that Autistic don't share it, I don't have any information about that) grow up they feel that it should be the same way. They have to be taught to ask for what they want. And your parents obviously weren't that interested in seeing you grow up into an independent adult. I want to say how they probably want to keep you as their loving child, a cherished pet that they will take out back and shot the first time it bites someone then be so heartbroken that it died, but that would probably upset people, the caregivers that want to be seen as saints for taking on the burden of raising an Autistic Child and Autistics that don't want to believe their parents are 'Evil'

Go out there and Fail. Fail often and fail early. and be prepared to fail. If you tell someone what you need then they know just what you say they will give you in order to control you. Don't believe in promises. As Madea said, "That was suppose to be a person that was suppose to come and teach you one thing and you didn't know it so you just fell in love and now you wonder why you ain't got no peace nowhere you go. No no. listen. I put everybody that come in my life in a category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree. The wind blows, they're over here, they're unstable. It blows another way, they're over here. Seasons change and they wither and die. They're gone. That's all right. Most people in the world are like that. They are just there to take from the tree. They are only there to take and give shade every now and then. That's all they can do. But don't get mad at people like that. That's who they are, a leaf. Some people are like branch on the tree. You gotta be careful with them branches too cuz they will fool you. They're gonna make you think they're a good friend and they're real strong, but the minute you step out there on them, they'll break and leave you high and dry. But if you find two or three people in your life that are like the roots at the bottom of that tree, you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that ain't going nowhere. They ain't worried about being seen. Don't nobody need to know they know you. They ain't gotta know what they're doing for you. But if those roots are not there, that tree can't live. Do you understand? A tree can have a hundred million branches but only have a few roots down there at the bottom to make sure it gets everything that it needs. I'm telling you sonny, when you get you some roots, hold on to them. but the rest of them, let them go. Let it go. Let folks go."

Now not all branches are malicious, most are just leaves that delude themselves as being Roots.

Don't give in to the requests made by those that have not gone out of there way to help you. and don't think that those that do it for your happiness, they do it only for their own benefit. It could be because they have emotion empathy and don't want to feel your misery but they would rather just ignore you so will avoid you in the future, it could be because someone is paying them but they will abandon you when the money runs out. But is you keep searching you'll find people that enjoy having you a part of their lives. Those are the root.

Now I think that I should warn you that their are people that genuinely want you to be as happiest as you possibly can be and will go out of their way to make it so and want nothing in return, these are the most dangerous of them all!
Just keep going out there and searching, the worst that happens is you meet a cruel psychopath that wants to use you as their yo-yo.

But even then they will do everything they can to build up you life to the best possible life just so you have farther to fall when they knock you down. And you can play their game for as long as you want to. As long as you know what the game is and can prepare yourself for the inevitable crash.... it might not be the worst option.

I am scared of many things, for example going blind. But my biggest fear is ending up in extreme poverty.

Why are you scared of going blind?

Because im shortsighted, and i feel like it is becoming worse.

I am nearsighted. My eyes generally deteriorated during my teen years but very little after that. I am now 70. So with the right prescription glasses I can see fine.

I’m in Colorado, and it took me four months to get SSDI benefits, which is really good given that the average wait time is two years or more. Autism tends to be easier to get benefits for because it’s on a list of “accepted” disabilities that’s put out by the social security office. I don’t know what the welfare system is like in Switzerland, but I would venture to guess that it’s better than here in the US, because most of Europe tends to have a degree of socialism that we in the states are decidedly lacking.

^ Very few remnants of socialism left in the UK. Plenty of Economic Liberalism (privatization, worshipping of 'The Free Market', etc), Social Liberalism and Political Correctness though. Pretty much explains the state the country's in today.

Homelessness more noticeable than at any time since the end of WW2 probably. People sitting on the pavement in just about every High Street and outside every supermarket.

A job to float you and a support network.
Hopefully, in a region that has assistance that includes ASDs?



_That said? _ When my mother died in 2016 my whole carefully stacked house of cards went poof. I don't think even as a normie I could have adjusted everything in time to prevent disaster.

I was suddenly a homeless, female English speaking hispanic, a vet, and an Aspie. With a minor child with even more severe Autism. And I only needed 22 days of shelter until direct deposit and ability to meet booked bus.

I have not pissed any kin off but neither am I close to any of the current generation since moving far from both branches after age 10. So you think anyone could lend a couch long enough for me to get bus trip back to where our (mother and I) former home was to get my vehicle and important items packed in it?
Few friends and they are scattered.
I had income (technically my son has income in SSI) but not enough for a standard home and surely not on short notice or after scraping pennies to cremate my mother. Shelters ? we did not meet requirements. Most refused liability of my son's condition since he can't be easily separated from me and was not same gender or their daycare facilities couldnt accommodate his type disability, or I am not recently escaping DV or that I was not a "transitional" aka druggie, gambler or alcoholic or returning from incarceration... really-no lie! 25 refusals in a 200 mile radius with only two being simply too full. Shelters that I had actually personally donated to when I was in my hometown previous before 2011 while I was employed. Churches? nope. Oh there was an offer to put my son in a temporary foster program. He was already clinging like death to me and my mom's service wonderdog after my mom died and our nice dull daily routine was completely erased. Separate from him? What kind of mental damage would that cause?! To be "abandoned?" Frikin basterds. After a few days on the street, We lived in a storage locker in Mesa for a week.. sneaking in at night and locking self in from inside (lucky it was cylinder type locks). Pro homeless told me how to survive daytime during help searches. Oh BTW it was week before Christmas and damn cold!
I was lucky to have a gamer buddy living 120 miles away take us in. Family and former personal friends? All bailed and failed. They have all been downgraded to people I send Ecards to at Christmas on FB. My fiance wired cash from EU to float us until the beginning of the next month. I went across country to pick up my vehicle from friend's house (because if I have at least it to sleep in, I am ahead of game! I had to leave it on east coast because it broke the tow trailer) and came back to AZ to end up in a dusty little ghost town that has nothing but is cheap. The silver lining is this state was chosen by my mother and to return to because it has excellent resources in the school system for spectrum. It is where he had most progression in head start and grades with peers. A year of homeschooling and a year and a half in AZ schools and my son has almost caught up to age-appropriate grade with good GPA. after terrible regression in a school system that was simply awful even exposed him to negative experiences and suspended him twice.
_end anecdote of horror_

Hate to say it, if there are no safety nets? homeless is only one crisis away! even if you are employed. I am not trying to scare you for trolling. Just set out the sad fact that... when it rains it can pour. In my case, it was a biblical deluge. if you don't have kids, learn to live small and save up some rainy day money. Contribute if you live with others. I don't think it is quite as bad a prospect in your particular country. Be grateful your parents like you and have a home they can offer to share! These last couple of decades have been hard everywhere for anyone starting at level 1 after spouse death, divorce, illness or entry to daily life after schooling.

Even if parents help, they may pass away and their finances may seem stable but debts eat up the inheritance. I desperately want to ensure for the stable welfare of my youngest because though smart he is unlikely to ever be employed in any serious fashion. Save away if you can!

choose the right parents/right genes. otherwise it is really a crapshoot. horatio alger is a MYTH, the dirty little secret is that misfortune beyond coping, can happen to just about anybody. the only way to lessen the chances are to have perfect mental health, perfect physical health and a LOT of $$$$$$$, and live around the right people.

I see, suicide is the only way...

I don’t have perfect mental health, perfect physical health, nor lots of bucks.

I’m deeply in debt, in fact.

I’m not going to commit suicide any time soon.

There’s lots of beauty in Nature. Much more than there is in people.

NO. it is NOT the only way. mental toughness/stubbornness/fortitude is the only way, for us 99%ers.

Suicide is only a suggestion your mind makes when things seem insolvable.
You don't have to listen to your mind, it's actually not that rational in a lot of ways.

But life sucksl