Strangers made fun of me

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Something is clearly wrong with THEM for asking such an ignorant AF question

It’s sad to hear about brazen hurtfulness like this, but of course it still happens. No matter why you were flapping, how could it still be okay for them to react like that? I truly wish I could see inside their minds to understand their thought process.

Not too long ago I read a story on another site about a guy who said he was a tall, muscular, handsome man who wore a large shoe (ahem). He told a sad story about how his life had always been terrible from men bullying him and women using him simply because of his body. No one ever thought he was smart (he was), or that he didn’t want to fight people, or that maybe he just wanted to be left alone and not noticed. He said he was actually pretty shy, but he never got to blend in since he was too tall and people were always looking at him.

The reaction from the rest of the forum was to laugh and make fun of him. I read this months ago and it really stuck with me. He got no kindness, even online.

Everyone deserves respect. None of us knows what goes on inside the next person.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Us humans can be cruel and ignorant. Please don't let this keep you from having a good time. Your care taker is right; you are different, but definitely not less. You are still human, and that comes first.

Thank you. Yeah people can be very ignorant. Sometimes people will ask people I am with questions about me when I am there. It makes me feel a bit upset. I was with my sister once when it happened and she told the person to ask me. I felt good then. I try not to let people keep me from having a good time. I want people to be better educated about autism

"People are bloody ignorant apes." -- Samuel Beckett

I often carry something that I can fan myself with. I actually prefer that to hand flapping and besides being asked if I was hot, I don't remember ever having problems.

I've had strangers make fun of me in public and I don't even flap! I'm not really the 'stimming' type, if I do stim I do socially acceptable stims, but not really in public. I have flapped my hands when excited, but I'm aware that I'm doing it, and only when I'm around people I'm really comfortable with. I used to wring my hands a bit when I was a kid, but I grew out of it before I was 16. When I'm in public I try to act as normal as I can, and everyone knows that nobody's perfect. I mean, what is the 'right' way to act? How can I walk out without other women staring?

Because most people don't do that and they didn't understand why you were acting unusual.