Inappropriate laughter. Does anyone else stuggle with this?

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In my experience, if anyone laughs inappropriately, it's the NTs, especially NT adults. I'm not even factoring in laughing while bullying an aspie kid. At least I can understand why they're laughing: They're showing superiority over me that way. But more often than not, NTs laugh in totally inappropriate situations. (Unless, of course, they were showing their superiority over me, like my actual bullies did.) Consider...

Some of my parents' friends came over to dinner. While my parents carried tea and dessert, a teacup fell and broke.
Aspie1: <breaks down into crying like someone just died>
My parents: "STOP CRYING! YOU'RE A BAD KID, YOU'RE HORRIBLE, BLAH-BLAH-BLAH."
Their friends: Hahahahahahaha.

I mispronounced a word, that's not even standard English pronunciation, while asking for pizza.
Aspie1: "Can we order the Little Kay-sar [Caesar] pizza again?"
NT adults: Hahahahahahaha.

I was talking about the solar system, while riding a city bus with my older sister. Two old ladies sat nearby.
Aspie1: "Neptune has winds of up to 1500 miles per hour."
Old ladies: <after turning around to look at me> Hahahahahahaha.

My parents were talking to me about high school shortly before I was due to finish 8th grade.
Parents: "Are you excited about high school?"
Aspie1: "Yes. It'll have new girls who haven't met me yet, unlike this school year."
Parents: Hahahahahahaha.


Now, consider an appropriate laughter situation. I was in port on a cruise, doing a group excursion. Most people stopped at a cafe after; we ate soft-serve ice cream laced with liquor. Which got us all drunk. When I got back to the ship, I saw a couple I recognized.
Couple: "Hi, Aspie1. You're having fun. Aren't you glad you decided to take a cruise?"
Aspie1: <slurring> "Hell, yeah!"
Couple: "Wow, you're blasted. What did you have to drink?"
Aspie1: <slurring> "Some ice cream laced with rum or maybe tequila. It kind of tastes the same at this point."
Couple: Hahahahahahaha.

I don't like anger, but I hate it even worse when people laugh at me when I make a mistake. At least when people get angry, I can understand the reaction. They usually get mad out of frustration or they didn't get what they wanted. When someone laughs at me, it sounds as if they're happy I failed.

I struggle with a tendency to laugh at inappropriate things. My brother always tries to catch my eye if there's a sad story on the news, or one of those very sad charity adverts, because he knows I'll laugh and get told off. I can't help it. I always say it's because I'm nervous, but honestly I'm not sure if it is. I don't know why I do it.

I find certain laughs really annoying. I posted in other threads about stupid laughs. Some women have a cackle for a laugh, while some men sound like they're laughing through their noses. It drives me crazy, because usually nothing is funny.

I have laughed at random times at something someone said during the day. I feel really stupid when people ask, "What's so funny?" because, in reality, nothing is funny.

I struggle with "inappropriate laughter"

Precious lil "people's"

They don't struggle with it

It's functional to be uppity

I think the worst laugh is the tittering laugh, the way NTs laugh when they mock someone. It's how the old ladies on the bus and the people who heard me mispronounce "Caesar" were laughing. The other two situations involved an uproarious belly laugh, which wasn't mockery per se, but rather laughter at my misfortune or stupidity.

I myself laugh very rarely, if ever. It takes a lot for me to find something funny. Possibly because of PTSD-like memories of laughter being directed against me for most of my younger years.