Mid-Life Crisis?

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No, never had that. At 55, I'm too far behind the normal adult learning curve to have a mid-life crisis.

From age 13 til 36 and counting, I have had all of the symptoms except the last four

midlife crisis?
I don't have to have one.... i have an ASD diagnosis....
Inappropriate behaviour and immaturity is part of my diagnosis... lol.

Plus
I have always been a bohemian arty type, who loves music, art, poetry, beautiful woman.
And it just so happens that younger woman are generally so much more light hearted and fun,
as well as generally being in better shape.

Well, perhaps if i had found my soul mate when i was younger, and hadn't instead got involved with
woman who were sociopaths who then did all they could to ruin my life. without cause. just malice. and in some cases, covert black magic
(like they thought she could sacrifice me to the devil,... even if she did, i think the devil would send me back and ask for a refund.... certainly not much of a sacrifice)...

yep. so if you cant get together for love, you may as well get together for fun and mutual benefit.
To be honest, i have nothing against women of my own age.

If i was bothered to have a relationship that is.
At the mo, i cant afford to provide for a western woman, who wants a normal lifestyle or at least the lifestyle that the people around her have. such as regular going out for meals, socialising at the pub, going on holidays and doing stimulating activities together...

I don't have the money or the time to dedicate myself to someone at the mo. in a long term serious relationship.
Especially in the island where i live, which is full of sociopaths who would do what they could to ruin the relationship.
Including people who i used to regard as my best friends. Yep, don't want to go through that again.

So. yep. think i will prefer less serious relationships, as they are less of a liability, as you sometimes really don't know what a sociopath you are sharing your life and bed with. Prefer to not have to sleep with a gun under the pillow in case your second half decides to commit adultery and then sacrifice you to the devil on a full moon... after fleece'ing you for all your worth. that we all could do with out.

As for the Harley, yep. i should have had one of those in my 20s. That or an Indian.
mat black and ripped, without the tassles,

But, that also has nothing to do with mid life crisis, but more due to never really had the cash when i was younger.
Again due to being a music studio boffin. always something more important to spend my money on.
As living on a small 7 mile x 9 mile island, you kind of run out of road when you have a big bike like that.

maybe when i am older.... perhaps get a bike like ghost rider... flames included.

So far, it seems that the so-called "Mid-Life Crisis" may not be a common autistic phenomenon, since people with autism already seem to have more than enough crises of their own to deal with.

So maybe, IF a "Mid-Life Crisis" is a primarily NT thing, then maybe it's because they're really just bored from having life too easy ... ?

Perhaps it's that NT people live, in my observation, largely by adopting selfish or normative views of the world and eventually they find that living a life structured that way isn't satisfying, despite it affording them approval by, and relatively "easy" navigation of, a world structured according to those norms.

This may be applicable:


Dabrowski’s Theory and Existential Depression in Gifted Children and Adults
http://www.davidsongifted.org/Search-Da ... try/A10554

Some people put themselves back together by buying a sports car, others by becoming born-again somethings, and yet others by leaving corporate jobs to put up houses in Africa.

There's also Maslow's hierarchy. If a person can get to a comfortable place where their "lower" needs like security and connection are met then the higher more meaningful bits can start to creep in. But also a lot of people paper over that level by just grabbing at something that gives them the appearance of meaning or satisfaction in order to make the crisis go away.

Yep... my entire life is made up of one massive chain of mini crisis's.
I guess that is why i don't get any more flustered when a real crisis happens, as i am used to dealing with crap things happening to me all the time, as this is the nature of my life.

Ironic really, the person who sometimes has the answers to problems during a crisis is the guy with ASD,
as although he looks like he is half cracking up and generally in bad condition (mental health)
he is good in a crisis because he has more experience than everyone because he has ASD.
But also due to the ASD super power of Logic!

I don't think I've ever had a midlife crisis. I haven't had any of the symptoms of having a midlife crisis. I've been too busy having fun.

in my later 30s i felt like a total failure in life. my life since then has been coming to terms with being the best failure i can be.

I had all of those things except the affair thing (although I did leave my then girlfriend) at the age of 30. I have suspected that this is a midlife crisis but everyone seems to think I am too young for it. I also had what I call a quarter life crisis at age 20 while still in University.

In the world of NTs, the dreaded midlife crisis may come about because it coincides with life’s peak time for misery, a study released this week says, according to a report.

That peak time would be around age 47, Dartmouth College professor and former Bank of England policy maker David Blanchflower claims in a study, after examining trends in 132 countries to compare the relationship between well-being and age.

To achieve a better understanding between happiness and aging, Blanchflower looked at data from 500,000 randomly sampled Americans and West Europeans.

His study revealed each country has a “happiness curve” or that happiness follows a U-shaped trajectory. People generally reach peak unhappiness in midlife, with greater experiences of happiness in youth and old age.

Blanchflower reported for the majority of people in all 132 countries he studied even after controlling for other influences upon life happiness and satisfaction such as income, education level and marriage the theory holds true. This supports the theory age has an effect on overall happiness despite everything else going on in a person’s life.

Happiness among American males reaches a minimum in their early 50s, whereas women experience peak unhappiness in their late 30s, the report said. In Europe, reported life satisfaction for both men and women hits its lowest point around the mid-40s.

Source: Most people reach peak for being miserable around age 47, study suggests