My therapist claims that autistic people are more intolerant

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Tolerance is just that - the ability to accomodate something that doesn't quite fit.

Things would break if there wasn't any tolerance, and things wouldn't work at all if there was too much - think moving machines.

Tolerances also change over time and can be affected by weather, pressure, temperature, friction, movement etc.

The level of tolerance that people have for other people changes all the time - both for NT and ND.

Yes there are intolerant people and whether they are NT or ND makes no difference - they are intolerant people.

Many judgmental people think they are making the world better (trying to improve the way others behave by using them to set examples), when really they are not.

Think back to the olden days when people were ostracized for social deviation - like being pregnant out of wedlock, or marrying a foreigner, etc.

If people let others "live and let live" then the world would be a happier place.

I am quite intolerant of other peoples behaviours, that includes other autistic people. If someone does or says something that I would do or say differently, it annoys me quite a lot. I get why autistic people do and say things sometimes but it still bugs me enough that I'd rather avoid them.

@harry12345, ooooo, I like that. Balance.

Yes that could happen in theory, but I see it as more of a risk than a certainty. It seems rather tunnel-visioned to just pick one possible source of strife with a couple and conclude that it's going to be the signature problem of the whole relationship. Real people are a lot more complex than that. Many of us can be rigid about some things, but we can also recognise the strain that can put on others, and look for ways of easing that strain that don't involve simply caving in. I'm in an ASD-ASD relationship myself but it's working better than my past ASD-NT relationships ever did.

Balance it is.

If there was no tolerance between people then society would break down because we would be constantly at each others throats because of all the criticism flying around.

If there was too much tolerance between people then things wouldn't work because anything would go - there would be anarchy because everytime someone did something naughty everyone else would go - "so what?"

Soaps and Social Media have gone a long way in making people way too intolerant of others.
Too many people make comments about others in a negative way.

I strive to be tolerant of other peoples differences. I like to celebrate everyone's differences. I know what it's like to be around an intolerant person for long periods of time and that person gave birth to me. I've promised myself that I will never be like my relentlessly normal mother.